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Should he go to the wedding?
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<blockquote data-quote="in a daze" data-source="post: 632174" data-attributes="member: 15832"><p>This is so profound. This is the ESSENCE of how to deal with our wayward adult children. In order to grow emotionally, they need to learn from their own mistakes. Rescuing them all the time prevents growth and change. But, it's not always black and white, and we all struggle with when, if, and how much to help them.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, difficult child is now vacillating about the wedding, even though he told his aunt he would not be attending. Now I thought about reminding him to ask for the Saturday off in case he decided to go, but I have decided to do...</p><p></p><p>Nothing!</p><p></p><p>He probably won't want to do that anyway because he feels that he is a marginal employee (he has severe unmedicated ADHD symptoms, although he does show up as scheduled.) He doesn't like to call attention to himself by asking for too many favors.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You're right, RE. I would continually be on edge if he were there. I can just envision it...scanning the room every 10 minutes, what's that drink in his hand, where did he go, etc....</p><p></p><p>But the really hard part is dealing with husband. He really wants him to go and is willing to go to great lengths if he would decide to go. husband is biting off more than he can handle in my opinion. The bride called him left message asking him to take charge of his elderly 94 year old father who is in a wheelchair and can barely transfer and refuses to hire more help because he insists on giving all his money to one son and 3 grandchildren. Ugh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="in a daze, post: 632174, member: 15832"] This is so profound. This is the ESSENCE of how to deal with our wayward adult children. In order to grow emotionally, they need to learn from their own mistakes. Rescuing them all the time prevents growth and change. But, it's not always black and white, and we all struggle with when, if, and how much to help them. Anyway, difficult child is now vacillating about the wedding, even though he told his aunt he would not be attending. Now I thought about reminding him to ask for the Saturday off in case he decided to go, but I have decided to do... Nothing! He probably won't want to do that anyway because he feels that he is a marginal employee (he has severe unmedicated ADHD symptoms, although he does show up as scheduled.) He doesn't like to call attention to himself by asking for too many favors. You're right, RE. I would continually be on edge if he were there. I can just envision it...scanning the room every 10 minutes, what's that drink in his hand, where did he go, etc.... But the really hard part is dealing with husband. He really wants him to go and is willing to go to great lengths if he would decide to go. husband is biting off more than he can handle in my opinion. The bride called him left message asking him to take charge of his elderly 94 year old father who is in a wheelchair and can barely transfer and refuses to hire more help because he insists on giving all his money to one son and 3 grandchildren. Ugh. [/QUOTE]
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