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Should I confront my son??
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 702309" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Is there a point?</p><p></p><p>Talking to a drug addict is like trying to have a discussion with a lying machine.</p><p></p><p>I would say nothing except that he is old enough to work and pay his own bills and totally cut out paying for anything. Your mom may have bought him drugs, but his cell phone allows him access to drug users, sellers and junkies and if you pay for the phone, you are making it easy for him to contact his cohorts. Mom is doing what you are...enabling him, even though he is obviously not appreciative or in a good place.</p><p></p><p>Interventions only work if the user wants to quit.</p><p></p><p>I would stop reading FBor instagram. I always think FB is used by them to hurt us. Why hurt yourself? Why play the game?</p><p></p><p>So my summary is confronting will just lead to his over the top drama, abuse and denial. But I'd totally cut off the Bank of Mom. Every dime you give him will help him use drugs in some way. No need to discuss anything. Text him that he is old enough to pay his own bills so you won't be doing that anymore. You can add that your own finances are tight but keep it short </p><p></p><p>Sorry for all the drama and heartache this brings. Do something nice for yourself and learn to detach from son's non-stop chaos. It is his chaos, yours.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 702309, member: 1550"] Is there a point? Talking to a drug addict is like trying to have a discussion with a lying machine. I would say nothing except that he is old enough to work and pay his own bills and totally cut out paying for anything. Your mom may have bought him drugs, but his cell phone allows him access to drug users, sellers and junkies and if you pay for the phone, you are making it easy for him to contact his cohorts. Mom is doing what you are...enabling him, even though he is obviously not appreciative or in a good place. Interventions only work if the user wants to quit. I would stop reading FBor instagram. I always think FB is used by them to hurt us. Why hurt yourself? Why play the game? So my summary is confronting will just lead to his over the top drama, abuse and denial. But I'd totally cut off the Bank of Mom. Every dime you give him will help him use drugs in some way. No need to discuss anything. Text him that he is old enough to pay his own bills so you won't be doing that anymore. You can add that your own finances are tight but keep it short Sorry for all the drama and heartache this brings. Do something nice for yourself and learn to detach from son's non-stop chaos. It is his chaos, yours. [/QUOTE]
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