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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 643345" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>This is JMO... take it for what it's worth.</p><p></p><p>He isn't ready to launch. So... what does it take to help him learn the skills to launch?</p><p>I wouldn't be providing spending money, for <em>anything</em>. If you think he needs time to grow up, and he isn't breaking the rules of your home (other than not moving forward with his life), then if you want, you can still provide the basics: a bed to sleep in, food to eat, clothes (of your choosing) to wear.</p><p>If he wants to drive a car, he needs to come up with the money to buy one, pay insurance, buy gas.</p><p>If he wants to go to movies etc., he has to pay his own way.</p><p>If he wants to be on the computer, he has to pay his share of the cost of internet to your home.</p><p>If he wants a cell phone, he has to pay for it... well, ok, some of us pay for that because we want to be able to reach them... your call there.</p><p>But I think you get the picture.</p><p></p><p>You don't have to kick him out to wake him up. You just have to start holding back on what you provide. Might not even want to do it all at once. Maybe it's spending money first, for example. <em>Nudge</em> him in the right direction. Force doesn't work, but giving him everything he wants doesn't work either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 643345, member: 11791"] This is JMO... take it for what it's worth. He isn't ready to launch. So... what does it take to help him learn the skills to launch? I wouldn't be providing spending money, for [I]anything[/I]. If you think he needs time to grow up, and he isn't breaking the rules of your home (other than not moving forward with his life), then if you want, you can still provide the basics: a bed to sleep in, food to eat, clothes (of your choosing) to wear. If he wants to drive a car, he needs to come up with the money to buy one, pay insurance, buy gas. If he wants to go to movies etc., he has to pay his own way. If he wants to be on the computer, he has to pay his share of the cost of internet to your home. If he wants a cell phone, he has to pay for it... well, ok, some of us pay for that because we want to be able to reach them... your call there. But I think you get the picture. You don't have to kick him out to wake him up. You just have to start holding back on what you provide. Might not even want to do it all at once. Maybe it's spending money first, for example. [I]Nudge[/I] him in the right direction. Force doesn't work, but giving him everything he wants doesn't work either. [/QUOTE]
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