Briefly, I have a son I haven't seen in three years or more. My ex sees him now, but he hasn't agreed to see anyone else and he hurt us all really badly. I found out he has a son (my grandchild). I called his cell phone and got his voicemail (he never picks up) and I left a message congratulating him and his wife and said I'd love to see a picture of Nathan. I didn't get any response so I moved on again...it had been hard the first time, but much easier this time. I also told ex not to talk to me about him because it really has nothing to do with me and it hurts me. But I did find out that the baby turned one year old on Saturday. (Ex worships this particular son and has been talking nonstop about him to my other son and my daughter too...and they would like him to quit it also. It was my other son who told me about the birthday, so that's how I found out). My dilemma now is, do I send the baby a gift because he's my grandson? I am kind of thinking it's better if I don't. He has a large family on the other side and he has my ex and I'll probably never meet him. And I'm wondering if my wish to do this is just a way of trying to hang onto a son that I no longer have. The child doesn't NEED a present...my son is wealthy and I'm sure he has everything he needs. My other grandson's birthday is Friday and I kind of saved up to get him something nice. I don't have a lot of extra money. I'm really not sure what to do, but am leaning toward just continuing to leave things alone. Still, I'm not quite sure...thanks in advance.