Earlier the same day that difficult child's ex-friend's dad called to tell us about the sexting, husband got a call from one of our neighbor's, TG. We have had neighbor issues from the moment we moved in here, because we have 3.77 acres on the water and everyone thinks it's theirs. So this guy buys the empty houses on both sides of us (one was an elderly couple on the water, who died, and the other did a balloon mortgage and couldn't afford it). Last yr, he chopped down a bunch of trees on the water, incl trees on our property. We had him replant. Last Sept., he called to be "a nice neighbor" and give us a heads-up, because he heard what had happened about another neighbor cutting down a huge tree on the side of our house and the brouhaha that ensued. So he decided to give us a heads-up. In TG language, that means he's going to tell us before he does whatever he d*mn well pleases. So he cuts down all the trees in the back yard of this house, which has a huge hill. Does he install stakes and curtains to keep the dirt in place? No. He hires a moron to drive a bulldozer and move dirt around to smooth it out ... which means that the swale we had cut is now obliterated. This is on an easement that is shared by the city, by the way. It drains from the streets behind those houses into the bottom of our yard, and we finally, after 13 yrs, got it under control. On top of it, I had just purchased an expensive ornamental miniature weeping Japanese maple and planted it right next to the swale for our anniversary, along with-a cute little bridge I had purchased 6 yrs ago, to create a Japanese type landscape, and the bulldozer guy ran right over it. So TG promised to replant it. And promised. And promised. Fall came and went. Winter came and went. Finally, the week of Easter, husband called TG AGAIN and the tree was replanted. It was the wrong kind, but similar. Sigh. So, I'm sick and tired of this whole mess, and we have hired a landscape architect to help us fix up the yard, and we want to get a move on. But TG hasn't decided what he wants to do yet. I give up and call the city. They come out and look and tell me that what he did was illegal (no kidding. He also removed the permanent metal marker by the water, and the scrub in the protected wetlands). They say they have to do a survey and they will be back in 2 wks. They came back in 3 wks. No warning, just showed up and did their thing. I figured, fine, at least we'll get an updated survey and our tax dollars will pay for it. TG calls husband and roars, "YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO CALL THE CITY AND GO ON MY PROPERTY!" (We do, actually. It's a city easement and it's allowed by law.) "WHY DID YOU DO THAT? YOU SHOULD HAVE CALLED ME! YOU ARE NEVER ALLOWED ON MY PROPERTY AGAIN!" husband blurts out, "I didn't call the city." "You didn't?" "No, my wife did." :wildone: Aarrrrrrrgghh! Thanks a LOT husband!!! It was HIS idea to call the city in the first place!! I really wanted to kill him on the spot but since it was the same day that we had the difficult child sexting fiasco, I thought I'd let him live for a few more days. Between him and difficult child and the neighbor, I think I understand why I read about genocide in the news.