I'll start by saying that I'm shocked, just embarrassed and disgusted. I have 2 bio children and also have adopted children from foster care. So while I was trained and had rules in place to keep this from happening to my adopted children, who have scars from their past....never in my mind did I think that my bio children would do this. They are very close in age, just a year apart. They have been taught better, and sadly we found out yesterday it's been going on for quite some time (atleast a few years). Mind you that no actual 's*x' took place between them....but still!!! We've contacted CPS, made a report with local authorities and have separated the children that this involves....but we couldn't get in to see a counselor until next week, and the first visit she only wants to talk to the parents! I've been looking this stuff up all day on the Internet, trying to find some answers as to why this would happen....but I can't. I find that sibling 'experimenting' is fairly common, but that doesn't make me feel any better, nor does it explain to me what to do and how to get over this. The family member that we sent our son home with says that this is just a normal (although unhealthy) thing that sadly happens in families more than most want to admit. She even hinted that maybe it had happened in her own family. I'm beside myself....I can't think straight and I don't care how much this happens in other peoples families, why did it happen in mine? Two well rounded children, who both have plenty of friends (both male and female) who have lived WONDERFUL lives and who's parents are still married and as normal as any other marriage. I just don't get it. I don't want to get to the therapist office and be told it is because of some disfunction, because I nursed them, because I've been to 'mothering' over the years, because I'm not spending 24/7 with them....etc, but then again I keep thinking somehow this has to be my fault, and how did I not see it? So anyhow, I guess I'm just wondering what the next steps should be? Where should we go from here? There are very very strict rules in place when my son does come back home, but what else can I do? This has truly just uprooted our lives and made us doubt everything about our parenting skills.