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Sick of difficult child using divorce as her excuse...still!
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 58399" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Hahaha - what an awesome response. In front of the counselor I explained to difficult child that I made my choices based on what I thought was healthiest for me and both daughter's way back then and every day since. I reminded her that she and her sister were very vocal about wanting H as their stepdad (he and I were not seriously thinking marriage until they brought it up). I also told her that I hope she never has to make those difficult choices and my goal was by ensuring she grew up in a healthy loving environment, she wouldn't. However, if she does, I am confident she will do what's best for all, not one.</p><p></p><p>She said something about me giving up on her father because he was a pot and cokehead but sticking with current H while he worked on his 'alcohol problem'. I kind of jumped on that by stating that the difference was that H and I still share a lot of love, he is a good provider (hence the fact I don't have to hit up the church soup kitchen to feed my daughters like I did back then) and he's a good honest man who puts his family first. I finished by also stating that my marriage is none of her business and that one day when she is in an adult relationship she too will see that there are certain levels of compromises based on other things that each person brings to that relationship. She shut up and the counselor was shaking her head yes, in agreement with me.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, but I do not feel that any one of us has to explain our marital (or the like) relationship to our kids. I think we've always explained everything to them that now they think they are privy to everything in our life! Well, NO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 58399, member: 2211"] Hahaha - what an awesome response. In front of the counselor I explained to difficult child that I made my choices based on what I thought was healthiest for me and both daughter's way back then and every day since. I reminded her that she and her sister were very vocal about wanting H as their stepdad (he and I were not seriously thinking marriage until they brought it up). I also told her that I hope she never has to make those difficult choices and my goal was by ensuring she grew up in a healthy loving environment, she wouldn't. However, if she does, I am confident she will do what's best for all, not one. She said something about me giving up on her father because he was a pot and cokehead but sticking with current H while he worked on his 'alcohol problem'. I kind of jumped on that by stating that the difference was that H and I still share a lot of love, he is a good provider (hence the fact I don't have to hit up the church soup kitchen to feed my daughters like I did back then) and he's a good honest man who puts his family first. I finished by also stating that my marriage is none of her business and that one day when she is in an adult relationship she too will see that there are certain levels of compromises based on other things that each person brings to that relationship. She shut up and the counselor was shaking her head yes, in agreement with me. I'm sorry, but I do not feel that any one of us has to explain our marital (or the like) relationship to our kids. I think we've always explained everything to them that now they think they are privy to everything in our life! Well, NO. [/QUOTE]
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