My life was settling into a reasonable pattern of less stress.... Then about a month ago, Ant has pictures on his facebook of his new girlfriend. They met at a party and left as boyfriend/girlfriend. (possible little red flag there). Then last weekend, Ant calls to say he's going to propose to her. This is fast, but this is also Ant, they'll have a 20 year long engagement, no big deal. On Monday, he's posting about how he needs a DJ for Jan because he's getting married then. (breathe...) When I ask how her parents feel about this, they are out of her life. (Anyone missing a female difficult child?) So, the girl is getting ready to turn 23. She has 22 month old twin girls, their Dad is a jerk (according to her comments on FB). She annouced yesterday that she is quitting her job and staying home with the girls. They plan to pay for their own wedding but want a "high end" wedding. Ant...MY Ant?... is going to pay for this? My Ant? The one that hasn't taken care of the bills that went to collection in our state? My Ant? The one who didn't pay his speeding ticket in OR which is about to go to collection? My Ant? The one that never finished paying his friend for the truck he bought - that he rolled so he figured he didn't have to finish paying of it? MY Ant? The one that bought a car from his sister and never paid a penny on it nor returned it when he decided he didn't want it anymore? Oh this is going to work out so well!! So, next Sunday they are coming up to visit for a couple of days. So I can meet her and her kids and help plan her wedding. This should be interesting...especially since last I heard, neither had a car. Maybe the cardealer Ant works for will give him a loaner. LOL. Oh, and unless Ant has really changed all of sudden, his pattern for visiting is to stop by and say hi then disappear to bars/parties with his friends until it's time to go home and he needs gas money to get home. When I mentioned to husband that we are NOT babysitting kids we just met - he wants to know why not? We should get to know our new grandkids! Anyone know of a place I can hide until Feb!