I have my difficult child on complete and total lock down. He can't even go Pee without permission. His birthday is Monday. He's not getting any presents or a party. I am however going to surprise him with a trip up to the guardians house so he can visit and see his girlfriend. And he has rules there to. He's not allowed out of my sight at any time (except bathroom which i will escort him to and from). For some reason that eludes me, No One else is understanding this. My sister wants to go up to the guardians house with her kids to visit with him also. Fine same rules, no party, no presents. She's pushing for a present from her and her kids. Told her fine, care package. Shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, toothbrush, toothpaste, razor, shaving creme. That's it. Now the guardian wants me to buy groceries so my easy child can make a special lunch. Ummm, no party! So i shot that down. Then she says well bring bathing suits and we'll go to the river... WTF!? What part of this are you not getting!? I mean i know i shouldn't expect less because there is a reason i took him away from there in the first place, but really!? Sigh..