Well my son has been out of the house for 5 weeks now. That has been a good thing for my husband, daughter and I. We know he is staying with a friend and we here from him when he needs something. The dad where he is staying keeps in touch with us. We had planned a really nice vacation this summer originally for the 4 of us. At first we hoped that somehow he would make some major shift and maybe still come with us. Last week we came to the conclusion that would not happen and that if he came the whole thing would be one big disaster. He would have trouble coming because he has a court date after we leave anyways. Anyway we told him that with the way things are between us it was not the time for a family vacation so that he would not be coming. That we hoped sometime in the future to take him on vacation. He totally seemed to get it, seemed kind of relieved and was very calm and ok about it. Maybe he was high at the time and so it didn't phase him I don't know. Recently he friended my daughter on FB. So today I asked to see his FB page because he certainly does not have me as a friend. Well he recently put up this awful nasty post about how we cut him out of the vacaction. He said I know mom is readign this so F U (written out in caps of course) and you are a *****. Ugh. It stung. I hate the fact that many family members he has as friends will see it. And it is his own doing... all it does is show that we did the right thing by kicking him out. At the same time it is a sign that he is hurting. I know he has to find his own way right now and he has never done it the easy way. I know that is going to involve pain.... but somehow when he hurts I still hurt too. And I also know there is nothing I can or should do about it. My daughter unfriended him because she doesn't want someone as a friend who speaks that way about her parents. Good decision on her part. I am not responding at all. I am letting it be. But it still stings.