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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 690606" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am so sorry about the timing of your grandma's death. This is sad when it happens. Very sad.</p><p></p><p>I can only think of some minor wedding discussions that got Gone Boy and wife angry. Example, in her culture you don't talk about an upcoming wedding with others in the family, even if it is just....talk and not criticism. At least she SAYS that's not done in her culture and we all talked about the upcoming event. We also had a few disagreements but NOTHING big. Nothing most families don't get over in a day or two. So I really don't know.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, everyone could see how she refused to leave him alone with us or anyone for a second, how she sat on his lap whenever he sat down, how he glowed just looking at her. Although he is very handsome, this was the first beautiful bright woman from his culture who wanted him this way and he was besotted. He very much wanted a family close to his country of birth. Who knows all the dynamics?</p><p></p><p>On the drive home after meeting her for the first time, Princess, who is very perceptive, said, "she's evil. I can feel it."</p><p></p><p>I remember quickly stating, "I know." Then I was horrified and quickly refuted myself and talked about how lovely a person she was. But I had gotten the same vibe.</p><p>Everyone still tried to be so kind to her and to laugh at our first impressions, but she was cold and non responsive. And Gone Boy pulled back.</p><p></p><p>I will never know what happened. I'm my heart, I know it was a tag team effort though because she could not have accomplished this if he had not gone along with it. Over ten years is a long time to refuse to forgive, especially when I don't.know why.</p><p></p><p>But on another forum that I have read extensively, some parents have been shunned now for even longer and have grieved and gone on to have happy, love filled lives without the shunning child. They are inspiring.</p><p></p><p>I have done the same. Fortunately, there are many loved ones in my life. I found I can let him go and still be content. As for his wife, I hope to never see her again. She lives near Princess and PRincess has run into both a few times while shopping. It is awkward,she says.</p><p></p><p>I can imagine. If I ever see them while visiting I will walk the other way. I have nothing more to say to either one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 690606, member: 1550"] I am so sorry about the timing of your grandma's death. This is sad when it happens. Very sad. I can only think of some minor wedding discussions that got Gone Boy and wife angry. Example, in her culture you don't talk about an upcoming wedding with others in the family, even if it is just....talk and not criticism. At least she SAYS that's not done in her culture and we all talked about the upcoming event. We also had a few disagreements but NOTHING big. Nothing most families don't get over in a day or two. So I really don't know. At any rate, everyone could see how she refused to leave him alone with us or anyone for a second, how she sat on his lap whenever he sat down, how he glowed just looking at her. Although he is very handsome, this was the first beautiful bright woman from his culture who wanted him this way and he was besotted. He very much wanted a family close to his country of birth. Who knows all the dynamics? On the drive home after meeting her for the first time, Princess, who is very perceptive, said, "she's evil. I can feel it." I remember quickly stating, "I know." Then I was horrified and quickly refuted myself and talked about how lovely a person she was. But I had gotten the same vibe. Everyone still tried to be so kind to her and to laugh at our first impressions, but she was cold and non responsive. And Gone Boy pulled back. I will never know what happened. I'm my heart, I know it was a tag team effort though because she could not have accomplished this if he had not gone along with it. Over ten years is a long time to refuse to forgive, especially when I don't.know why. But on another forum that I have read extensively, some parents have been shunned now for even longer and have grieved and gone on to have happy, love filled lives without the shunning child. They are inspiring. I have done the same. Fortunately, there are many loved ones in my life. I found I can let him go and still be content. As for his wife, I hope to never see her again. She lives near Princess and PRincess has run into both a few times while shopping. It is awkward,she says. I can imagine. If I ever see them while visiting I will walk the other way. I have nothing more to say to either one. [/QUOTE]
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