there has been little to no contact from his side of the family. I've called his parents a least once a month. I never get calls from parents-in-law, SILs or brother in law. Nothing, nada...one sister in law lives 3 miles from me; the other runs her business here from FL & is in town for a week each month. Saying that, with Mother's Day fast approaching I'm less & less reluctant to send mother in law a gift or card. Each year I've sent her a new nightie (she loves fresh new summer nighties) or a plant brother in law can plant in the garden when all is said & done. Should I continue the "tradition" ? It seems as though I'm a continuing reminder of the loss of their son/sibling. And I can tell there's some discomfort which was never there before. The day after the funeral father in law told me to "keep in touch". What do you think?