This is the woman who is marrying my 40yo difficult child/doofus bro. I guess I should call her sister in law#4, since I already have three on husband's side. My mom and I are driving together. The shower is at sister in law#4's mom's house. This will be our first time meeting HER parents (or mom, anyway). And I think it's maybe the (counts on her fingers... one, two, three, four, five...) SIXTH time I've seen sister in law#4 in the 3yrs 9mos she's been living with my difficult child-bro. So we really won't know or be familiar with ANYONE at this shin-dig. Yeah, I'm a little anxious about it. It's a "High Tea," which I think is a term that's not really even in use anymore. I sure hope they're not wearing gloves and hats! Hopefully my mom and I will behave ourselves. Mom's happy her son is getting married, but a bit concerned that he hasn't done much to familiarize his bride-to-be with the rest of the family. We really don't know much about her (other than what they posted on their wedding webpages). It should be an interesting ride home with my mom!