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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 665476" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p><a href="http://snickers.typepad.com/estrangements/guidelines-for-being-estranged.html" target="_blank">http://snickers.typepad.com/estrangements/guidelines-for-being-estranged.html</a></p><p></p><p>Hey, you two!</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>I found this one on estrangement. </p><p></p><p>These are the things I learned this afternoon.</p><p></p><p>Estrangement from family can be described as "psychologically homeless".</p><p></p><p>I thought that was an interesting take on it.</p><p></p><p>"I simply could not have a relationship with people who so consistently trampled on my boundaries."</p><p></p><p>One of the blogs I visited: We will feel better when we reach the point that we see what we are doing, or what others are doing to us, as alright because we will make it in spite of the reasons for the estrangement.</p><p></p><p>Another person: Pray for their peace, daily. In doing so, we will be given peace around these issues, as well.</p><p></p><p>In recovering from emotional abuse:</p><p></p><p>1) Hold yourself in high esteem; honor yourself.</p><p></p><p>a.) Does this honor me? (This behavior from others and more importantly, our behavior, either toward them in our thinking or actions, or toward ourselves.</p><p></p><p>b.) Am I honoring the truth as I know it to be in what I say or do regarding the estrangement? (I minimize actions and behaviors I should take seriously.) I will work on honoring myself. Today especially, I have been worrying about the things I've posted ~ wondering who that makes me, to think like this. It is hard for me not to slip back into believing the shortcomings here are mine. When I see the events listed one after another, that helps me but then, I am bac to "Who thinks like this?!?"</p><p></p><p>So, honor, again.</p><p></p><p>2) Re-evaluate Relationships</p><p></p><p>That is what we are doing here. Thank you for witnessing for me.</p><p></p><p>3) Ask for help.</p><p></p><p>This is where D H says: "She hung up on you." </p><p></p><p>The other thing we need to do is what Serenity has already begun. We need to got out into the world and create things. New interests, new routines, new people. Over time, we will grow into our larger lives.</p><p></p><p>Here is a funny joke: How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb?</p><p></p><p>One. But it takes a really long time because the narcissist will wait for the world revolve around him rather than unscrewing it himself.</p><p></p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /></p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 665476, member: 17461"] [URL]http://snickers.typepad.com/estrangements/guidelines-for-being-estranged.html[/URL] Hey, you two! :O) I found this one on estrangement. These are the things I learned this afternoon. Estrangement from family can be described as "psychologically homeless". I thought that was an interesting take on it. "I simply could not have a relationship with people who so consistently trampled on my boundaries." One of the blogs I visited: We will feel better when we reach the point that we see what we are doing, or what others are doing to us, as alright because we will make it in spite of the reasons for the estrangement. Another person: Pray for their peace, daily. In doing so, we will be given peace around these issues, as well. In recovering from emotional abuse: 1) Hold yourself in high esteem; honor yourself. a.) Does this honor me? (This behavior from others and more importantly, our behavior, either toward them in our thinking or actions, or toward ourselves. b.) Am I honoring the truth as I know it to be in what I say or do regarding the estrangement? (I minimize actions and behaviors I should take seriously.) I will work on honoring myself. Today especially, I have been worrying about the things I've posted ~ wondering who that makes me, to think like this. It is hard for me not to slip back into believing the shortcomings here are mine. When I see the events listed one after another, that helps me but then, I am bac to "Who thinks like this?!?" So, honor, again. 2) Re-evaluate Relationships That is what we are doing here. Thank you for witnessing for me. 3) Ask for help. This is where D H says: "She hung up on you." The other thing we need to do is what Serenity has already begun. We need to got out into the world and create things. New interests, new routines, new people. Over time, we will grow into our larger lives. Here is a funny joke: How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb? One. But it takes a really long time because the narcissist will wait for the world revolve around him rather than unscrewing it himself. :p Cedar [/QUOTE]
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