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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 665556" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I dont know how to quote with my tablet so I hope you two understand the parts of your posts I am referring to.</p><p></p><p>I felt fear more and embarassment when I was at school. Those are the two feelings that. I remember. It wasnt one kid only and just sometimes. It was most of the class, lead by some bully, and it seemed like they wanted to torment me all the time. The teachers did not address it. My mother stormed to school when brother got picked on but I cant remember her going for me.</p><p></p><p>To this day if I see one kid being say beaten up by two I pull over and stop it. I remember driving one little boy home after I chased away the thug kids. He wascrying so hard he could barely breathe. I also never really trusted school workers or teachers. I fought hard for my kids with an advocate and got what they needed to succeed. No school administrator intimidated me as an adult. When jumper and sonic needed an iep, which they dont like to do because it is more work for them (a teacher friend at jumpers school explained this to me off the recird) both of my kids did get the maximum help they needed.</p><p></p><p>Im glad I was angry enough and non trusting enough to fight their weak solutions. Jumper is in her second year of criminal law. She did not learn to read until third grade. She had a reading disorder. Sonic is living a normal life today and is hardly the vegetable some psychologist said he would be. Many parents give up trying to get schools to help their kids, but that was not going to happen with my kids. And it didny. And both were treated well by their peers. Jumper was very popular, partly because she is both atletic and kind to all. The kids voted her homecoming queen.</p><p></p><p>I bdo not feel however (back to me) that the peer teasing still affyects me. I actuallyfound closure with that.</p><p></p><p>When I went to high school, it was not just kids from our little town nor were mist JEwish. I found that the kids from the other towns didnt like the stuck up kids from my town anymore than I did. So I had friends and allies.</p><p></p><p>I also went from being homely and awkward to pretty. I had been so skinny as a child that igot teased for it. Now I was a very nice 96 pounds, perfect for being so tiny. Boys liked me which was not true of most of the now mostly plump girls from my elementary and junior high days. Thetr boyfriends were the same boring ones (my opinion) of kindergarten and up. Nobody dared tease me I had a new friend who taught how to verbally shame them in front of their friends and of course I already knew from my mother!</p><p></p><p>The point of bullying is to embarass the other person, not yourself. After I talked back, shicking them, and pointing out their own phyical issues, causing their friends to giggle, they left me alone. I felt validated that id gotten them to go silent after all those years of bullying. So I feel I had closure there. But I never forgot how the teachers allowed it and I never did respect teachers, although I know that today they could not ignore bullying nor pull kids in front of class to say "this is an idiot!"</p><p></p><p>Yes, I had a mentally ill fifth grade teacher who did things like that to me and a few selgect others.</p><p></p><p>I did not look different then and nobody was identified then as being special needs in any way you were just lazy and stupid if you struggled in school. I heard both words from teachers. My mom, DIctator of the house, gave up on me and did not think I was too bright.</p><p></p><p>That is where lingering school abuse took me. I stopped caring about the kids because in my mind id silenced them regarding mysekf.</p><p></p><p>It was the teachers who were allowed to be mean to kids whom I remember. They were the adults who should have stepped in and should have had the brains and empathy not to dekiberately belittle young dtudents in front of her leering peers.</p><p></p><p>College doesnt make one smart or nice.</p><p></p><p>Im glad teachers cant do this today or im sure some still would.</p><p></p><p>by the way, although there is much talk against bullying .these days it still continues. I really dont know how we as people can stop it from happening.</p><p></p><p>Even police involvement at times has not stopped it.</p><p></p><p>Im grateful none of my kids were bullied in school. It makes it hard to focus on learning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 665556, member: 1550"] I dont know how to quote with my tablet so I hope you two understand the parts of your posts I am referring to. I felt fear more and embarassment when I was at school. Those are the two feelings that. I remember. It wasnt one kid only and just sometimes. It was most of the class, lead by some bully, and it seemed like they wanted to torment me all the time. The teachers did not address it. My mother stormed to school when brother got picked on but I cant remember her going for me. To this day if I see one kid being say beaten up by two I pull over and stop it. I remember driving one little boy home after I chased away the thug kids. He wascrying so hard he could barely breathe. I also never really trusted school workers or teachers. I fought hard for my kids with an advocate and got what they needed to succeed. No school administrator intimidated me as an adult. When jumper and sonic needed an iep, which they dont like to do because it is more work for them (a teacher friend at jumpers school explained this to me off the recird) both of my kids did get the maximum help they needed. Im glad I was angry enough and non trusting enough to fight their weak solutions. Jumper is in her second year of criminal law. She did not learn to read until third grade. She had a reading disorder. Sonic is living a normal life today and is hardly the vegetable some psychologist said he would be. Many parents give up trying to get schools to help their kids, but that was not going to happen with my kids. And it didny. And both were treated well by their peers. Jumper was very popular, partly because she is both atletic and kind to all. The kids voted her homecoming queen. I bdo not feel however (back to me) that the peer teasing still affyects me. I actuallyfound closure with that. When I went to high school, it was not just kids from our little town nor were mist JEwish. I found that the kids from the other towns didnt like the stuck up kids from my town anymore than I did. So I had friends and allies. I also went from being homely and awkward to pretty. I had been so skinny as a child that igot teased for it. Now I was a very nice 96 pounds, perfect for being so tiny. Boys liked me which was not true of most of the now mostly plump girls from my elementary and junior high days. Thetr boyfriends were the same boring ones (my opinion) of kindergarten and up. Nobody dared tease me I had a new friend who taught how to verbally shame them in front of their friends and of course I already knew from my mother! The point of bullying is to embarass the other person, not yourself. After I talked back, shicking them, and pointing out their own phyical issues, causing their friends to giggle, they left me alone. I felt validated that id gotten them to go silent after all those years of bullying. So I feel I had closure there. But I never forgot how the teachers allowed it and I never did respect teachers, although I know that today they could not ignore bullying nor pull kids in front of class to say "this is an idiot!" Yes, I had a mentally ill fifth grade teacher who did things like that to me and a few selgect others. I did not look different then and nobody was identified then as being special needs in any way you were just lazy and stupid if you struggled in school. I heard both words from teachers. My mom, DIctator of the house, gave up on me and did not think I was too bright. That is where lingering school abuse took me. I stopped caring about the kids because in my mind id silenced them regarding mysekf. It was the teachers who were allowed to be mean to kids whom I remember. They were the adults who should have stepped in and should have had the brains and empathy not to dekiberately belittle young dtudents in front of her leering peers. College doesnt make one smart or nice. Im glad teachers cant do this today or im sure some still would. by the way, although there is much talk against bullying .these days it still continues. I really dont know how we as people can stop it from happening. Even police involvement at times has not stopped it. Im grateful none of my kids were bullied in school. It makes it hard to focus on learning. [/QUOTE]
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