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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 689314" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Melbourne, I am so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. Others have offered you wonderful support. With adult kids like we have, often what we have to learn how to do is detach. And, to learn or re-learn how to care for ourselves. It becomes necessary to put the focus on ourselves, to learn how to nurture ourselves and remember our own needs and desires. </p><p></p><p>I made myself available to LOTS of support as I was learning how to detach from my daughter, for most of us, support is necessary, this is very difficult.</p><p></p><p>You may find the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment to be helpful. </p><p></p><p>If you are in the U.S., you might try looking online for N.A.M.I., which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have chapters in many cities and they offer wonderful support and courses for parents of kids who have mental issues.</p><p></p><p>There are a number of good books you may want to read. Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie is a good beginning resource.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully you can find a counselor, a support group for parents (NAMI offers those), a place you can go to get support, guidance, nurturing......a safe place where you can share how you feel and get help.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone, there are many of us here who've been dealing with adult kids who are similar to your daughter. Keep posting, it helps. Get support for yourself. Begin to take the focus off your daughter and place it on yourself.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you're here. Hang in there. We're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 689314, member: 13542"] Melbourne, I am so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. Others have offered you wonderful support. With adult kids like we have, often what we have to learn how to do is detach. And, to learn or re-learn how to care for ourselves. It becomes necessary to put the focus on ourselves, to learn how to nurture ourselves and remember our own needs and desires. I made myself available to LOTS of support as I was learning how to detach from my daughter, for most of us, support is necessary, this is very difficult. You may find the article at the bottom of my post here on detachment to be helpful. If you are in the U.S., you might try looking online for N.A.M.I., which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have chapters in many cities and they offer wonderful support and courses for parents of kids who have mental issues. There are a number of good books you may want to read. Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie is a good beginning resource. Hopefully you can find a counselor, a support group for parents (NAMI offers those), a place you can go to get support, guidance, nurturing......a safe place where you can share how you feel and get help. You are not alone, there are many of us here who've been dealing with adult kids who are similar to your daughter. Keep posting, it helps. Get support for yourself. Begin to take the focus off your daughter and place it on yourself. I'm glad you're here. Hang in there. We're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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