It has been the silent treatment...I am begining to feel shutdown. The treating doctor and the therapist are all feeling my difficult child is doing well. I am getting the "you need to let go" when the issues are not LIKE couples therapy...this is a teen, not a spousal tiff. This involves disrupting and unreasonable behavor without respect of the parent:the adult. and as the time goes by I am having them looking at me as if these "things" are due to my having "only him" to care about....oh, like the fact that, like so many parents the priorities shift to obligations of our childrens needs. So in this case the folks invloved who ALL WORK and HAVE AMPLE incomes (whatever their spending patterns may be) and assume that, therefor, a disabled single parent "should" spend on onesself "too". It is a mathematical impossiblity. And given we are discussing the ADHD male it will come to no great surprise that many of the self care things that I have aquired for my needs...equiptment that I found for dirt cheap at yard sales that served my needs for in home excersise have each been broken. What I needed, I think, is adults who are supporting the ideas of self control for my teen, and respecting others be it 'only' Mom who is not a spouse type figure...I am a parent! Single parenting IS a viable parenting syle and it is just biased nonscense to suggest that it is even apropriate to rate upon "ideals". Death, divorse, abandonments of all types did not just start occuring. Women and men have single parented at differant times and sometimes EVEN WHILE a legal spouse is elsewhere (Ben Franklin comes to mind His wife raised his many children alone). Ok, I am tired. Thanks for that. I hope I loosen up eventually and stop feeling this way.