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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 31790" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>Mom in training, I so often have people - strangers- walk up to me, mind you I do not have y0ung kids......I am not sitting blowing smoke into a high chair.......I do not have wee ones in a stroller......I do not go smoke in front of entrances and exits to buildings......but, I have had total strangers - many many times- walk right up to me and yes, say some pretty nasty things. They have at times been quite brutal. One person commented while I was standing in a parking lot beside my car....oddly enough, I have handicapped plates on my car but, I am doing better more often and my husband was not with in the car so I was parked quite far away in parking lot, no cars around me, and some lady came all the way up to me to tell me how disgusting she thought I was being for smoking. and then she looked at my car and the handicapped plates and got more angry and rude and said you of all people, with your handicapped plates.........I then watched her wheel her shopping cart full of groceries, beer and wine, back to her own Hummer....and climb in........her Hummer was parked in handicapped parking, and I did not see any handicapped plates or placard. Nice lady. </p><p>I was at military base, one day, having bought the months cigs for me and husband, standing in checkout. a man in uniform came up next to me, looked at my cigs purchase and said you know those are so bad for you? I looked at HIS purchase- 6 fifth size bottles of Absolut, and 4 cases of beer. </p><p></p><p>I smoke inside my house, so does husband. He cannot walk, he flies into rages, he flashes back to Nam,. I seldom do things that would provoke him. I cannot imagine telling my 60 yr old husband hey dude, go smoke somewhere else. I spent time where I could not use my legs at all, a couple years. I could not have gone outside if I had wanted to. Even in winter, my bedroom windows are open, I like it cold, I prefer it below 50 degrees, and I have 2 fans in my room. Thats where I generally smoke. My bedroom is mine alone. Fat lot of difference it makes, the lady next door, her drive butts up to my window......she does in home day care and from 5 am till 9 am there is a steady stream of cars running just outside my bedroom window, the whole 4 hours. and again from 3 pm till 7 pm. From 10-1030 every nite her adult son plays basketball - they installed the hoop so if he misses the basket it hits my bedroom window----and at 1030 every nite, he warms his car (I do not know why) and blasts his radio, and his exhaust floods my bedroom. At 2 am every nite, the dad runs his 18 wheeler outside my bedroom window. I suppose theuir car and truck exhaust is every bit as bad as my cigs. </p><p>They built the water treatment plant for this end of town across the street from me a couple years ago. Now it smells like ......um.kinda like a swer, kinda like a litter box minus the litter. </p><p>On short trips around town I usually don't smoke in my car and subject any of the kids to me actively smoking. On the long stressful trips to docs, I do smoke some in the car. With my hand and cig out the window and I turn my face towards the window. </p><p></p><p>IF I invite you to my house, and you do not smoke, I do not smoke at you or around you or while you are here. If I come to your house, I do not smoke anywhere on your property. </p><p></p><p>But my experiences with my kids friends parents does not at all make me inclined to make what for me would be a major accomodation like that. Once a week I take my son and a friend or 2 of his somewhere, chuckee cheese, lazer tag- whatever- where I do not smoke, noone smokes, I treat........for the maybe one or 2 days a month when he plays at someone elses house who does not permit their kid to come to our house becuz we smoke. That is how I reciprocate the play time. I cannot make my house not smell like anyone ever smoked here, and while I bathe twice a day, I am sure I smell like cigs........</p><p></p><p>There are all kinds of reasons children may not be able to go to someone elses house.......most of the time with a little creativity you can figure out a fair way to handle it that honors health issues or any other issues for all concerned. </p><p>My kid goes to those houses and plays maybe 1-2 times a month, and once week I take my son and a friend or 2 somewhere exciting and semi exotic to reciprocate. and their kids do not get exposed to our cig smoke. It seems to work out OK.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 31790, member: 1697"] Mom in training, I so often have people - strangers- walk up to me, mind you I do not have y0ung kids......I am not sitting blowing smoke into a high chair.......I do not have wee ones in a stroller......I do not go smoke in front of entrances and exits to buildings......but, I have had total strangers - many many times- walk right up to me and yes, say some pretty nasty things. They have at times been quite brutal. One person commented while I was standing in a parking lot beside my car....oddly enough, I have handicapped plates on my car but, I am doing better more often and my husband was not with in the car so I was parked quite far away in parking lot, no cars around me, and some lady came all the way up to me to tell me how disgusting she thought I was being for smoking. and then she looked at my car and the handicapped plates and got more angry and rude and said you of all people, with your handicapped plates.........I then watched her wheel her shopping cart full of groceries, beer and wine, back to her own Hummer....and climb in........her Hummer was parked in handicapped parking, and I did not see any handicapped plates or placard. Nice lady. I was at military base, one day, having bought the months cigs for me and husband, standing in checkout. a man in uniform came up next to me, looked at my cigs purchase and said you know those are so bad for you? I looked at HIS purchase- 6 fifth size bottles of Absolut, and 4 cases of beer. I smoke inside my house, so does husband. He cannot walk, he flies into rages, he flashes back to Nam,. I seldom do things that would provoke him. I cannot imagine telling my 60 yr old husband hey dude, go smoke somewhere else. I spent time where I could not use my legs at all, a couple years. I could not have gone outside if I had wanted to. Even in winter, my bedroom windows are open, I like it cold, I prefer it below 50 degrees, and I have 2 fans in my room. Thats where I generally smoke. My bedroom is mine alone. Fat lot of difference it makes, the lady next door, her drive butts up to my window......she does in home day care and from 5 am till 9 am there is a steady stream of cars running just outside my bedroom window, the whole 4 hours. and again from 3 pm till 7 pm. From 10-1030 every nite her adult son plays basketball - they installed the hoop so if he misses the basket it hits my bedroom window----and at 1030 every nite, he warms his car (I do not know why) and blasts his radio, and his exhaust floods my bedroom. At 2 am every nite, the dad runs his 18 wheeler outside my bedroom window. I suppose theuir car and truck exhaust is every bit as bad as my cigs. They built the water treatment plant for this end of town across the street from me a couple years ago. Now it smells like ......um.kinda like a swer, kinda like a litter box minus the litter. On short trips around town I usually don't smoke in my car and subject any of the kids to me actively smoking. On the long stressful trips to docs, I do smoke some in the car. With my hand and cig out the window and I turn my face towards the window. IF I invite you to my house, and you do not smoke, I do not smoke at you or around you or while you are here. If I come to your house, I do not smoke anywhere on your property. But my experiences with my kids friends parents does not at all make me inclined to make what for me would be a major accomodation like that. Once a week I take my son and a friend or 2 of his somewhere, chuckee cheese, lazer tag- whatever- where I do not smoke, noone smokes, I treat........for the maybe one or 2 days a month when he plays at someone elses house who does not permit their kid to come to our house becuz we smoke. That is how I reciprocate the play time. I cannot make my house not smell like anyone ever smoked here, and while I bathe twice a day, I am sure I smell like cigs........ There are all kinds of reasons children may not be able to go to someone elses house.......most of the time with a little creativity you can figure out a fair way to handle it that honors health issues or any other issues for all concerned. My kid goes to those houses and plays maybe 1-2 times a month, and once week I take my son and a friend or 2 somewhere exciting and semi exotic to reciprocate. and their kids do not get exposed to our cig smoke. It seems to work out OK. [/QUOTE]
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