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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 68643" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'm going to be blunt.</p><p></p><p>The only way you're going to teach easy child to manage his money is to leave it completely up to HIM. His finances are HIS problem. Natural consequences will take care of the problem.</p><p></p><p>My dear sweet mother in law (I love her dearly) bailed my husband out over and over for this and that for over 50 YEARS! husband was just as irresponsible as your son is being. And as long as his mother (and myself) were willing to do all of his worrying and pull his fanny from the fire, he had no reason to change.</p><p></p><p>About 8 yrs ago I put a stop to all of it. mother in law is not allowed to hand husband a cent, to help pay a bill, nothing. husband had to come clean with her on everything. (he'd blow money on stuff, then have HER pay the bills)</p><p></p><p>Funny thing. husband is not perfect, but he can manage to keep the bills paid, food on the table all by himself. I still keep an eye on things, just to keep him in check.</p><p></p><p>Because of my own husband, once my kids turned about 16 they were on their own as far as finanaces. As adults I only offer advice if asked, and I never hand over money or pay a bill.</p><p></p><p>Now even Travis who has the maturity of maybe a 15 yr old can STILL manage to PAY his bills.</p><p></p><p>If you don't hand this over to him, you might still find yourself in this position when he's 40 something.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 68643, member: 84"] I'm going to be blunt. The only way you're going to teach easy child to manage his money is to leave it completely up to HIM. His finances are HIS problem. Natural consequences will take care of the problem. My dear sweet mother in law (I love her dearly) bailed my husband out over and over for this and that for over 50 YEARS! husband was just as irresponsible as your son is being. And as long as his mother (and myself) were willing to do all of his worrying and pull his fanny from the fire, he had no reason to change. About 8 yrs ago I put a stop to all of it. mother in law is not allowed to hand husband a cent, to help pay a bill, nothing. husband had to come clean with her on everything. (he'd blow money on stuff, then have HER pay the bills) Funny thing. husband is not perfect, but he can manage to keep the bills paid, food on the table all by himself. I still keep an eye on things, just to keep him in check. Because of my own husband, once my kids turned about 16 they were on their own as far as finanaces. As adults I only offer advice if asked, and I never hand over money or pay a bill. Now even Travis who has the maturity of maybe a 15 yr old can STILL manage to PAY his bills. If you don't hand this over to him, you might still find yourself in this position when he's 40 something. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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