Linda, I am sorry that CPS is wasting time on this. Surely the file is thick enough that they can look at it and let it go. If they can't? Well, that isn't your problem. The worst they could really do is to order the tweedles to not have further contact. So just imagine me looking like Bill the Cat from bloom county givng a nice long ppppphhhhhhhhbbbbbbbt and yaking a hairball into their shoes.
This was about the most UNSELFISH thing I can think of that you have done with/for the tweedles. You KNEW that they would try to reconnect at 18 because they would then be "adults" and "no one can stop us now". You have spent YEARS trying to get the treatment teams, tdocs, psychiatrists, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers etc etc etc ad nauseum to do this.
You didn't just selfishly want your family "together" for a holiday. You didn't take them with-o arranging for support and help and for plenty of people to be around who could and would help handle anything that happened. This was NOT treated in any way casually.
You wanted to see if there were ANY signs that they could have a safe, if not healthy, relationship with each other in a home or anywhere else. You KNOW that there will be those who want to end services at a certain date simply because the tweedles have been on the earth for a certain number of days. You KNEW that it would be a dangerous situation if they were to meet without supports in place. You KNEW that things would likely happen that couldn't be fixed easily, if they could be fixed at all.
So you took the responsibility and you set things up so that the tweedlees would have a chance to see if it would be safe to have a relationship with each other. when thngs did not turn out the way that we all watned them to, you already had people in place to make sure that the dangers were minimized and no one was seriously hurt.
I am not minimizing kt's trauma and pain - I know it was awful for her. But it would have been so much more awful if she hadn't had you and all of the family there to help her and to help wm. If nothing else came of this trip, you KNOW that you prevented a much more dangerous and injurious situation from happening when the tweedles decided to meet on their own.
This trip was so far from selfish on your part. I hope that you will trust us when we tell you this, and that someday you can see how unselfish it was of you. Selfish would have been to ignore the problems of the tweedles and to take them with no notice or support, or it would have been to take both of them home years ago and to enable them and to allow both kt and yourself to be battered women and to allow (yes, ALLOW) wm to behave in ways that would not only hurt him, but also likely cause permanent harm to tohers and to end up with wm being sent to prison for hurting many people.
You stopped that from happening, even though it took a horrible toll on you.
I know that you wanted your precious children to be happy and healthy and whole. When you learned that they were not those things, you could have been selfish. You could have sent them back to foster care. You didn't. You were their forever mother, and you still are. Having known you for all these years I know you are not a saint. I am sure that you had a very real, very strong desire and even a NEED for a family holiday with both of your children and with your extended family. Having that desire doesn't make what you did selfish. It makes you a mom. But you are a mom who didn't let your own need for the holiday get in the way of the safety issues before, during and after the trip with your family.
