I am so frustrated with my husband right now! We have a 20 yo and a 16 yo. It is not legal for them to drink. So far neither wants to drink but there is enormous peer pressure to drink in this town. I don't drink because I am on medication.
We both have very strong histories of alcoholism on both sides of our family tree. So the gene for alcoholism is probably there for our kids.
So why does my husband insist on keeping a bottle of alcohol out in the kitchen? He is not an alcoholic but enjoys a drink in the evening now and then. If/when it gets to a level where it bugs me, he has no problem reducing the amount he drinks or eliminating it. I have PTSD from my bro's drunken abuse of me so it can be an issue at times. He knew this before we married and is okay with moderating/eliminating it if my PTSD acts up or his drinking triggers something.
The ONE thing I ask is that he keep the booze in the bedroom closet because the kids are at vulnerable ages.
Each time I ask him to do this, I explain why. I ask if he has any reason why this isn't reasonable. He NEVER has any reason why this isn't reasonable or any other place he wants to keep it other than the kitchen counter. I would most likely agree to keep it in another closet or place if he wanted, but he never has any suggestions. I don't yell and scream at him even when I want to bash him over the head. I give him time to think over the issue to come up with alternatives. He just says I am right and it is good to eep it in the bedroom closet but a few weeks later I find it on the counter again. And I am not talking about the homemade vanilla bottle either (large bottle with 15-20 vanilla beans and rum/vodka for cooking use).
We both have very strong histories of alcoholism on both sides of our family tree. So the gene for alcoholism is probably there for our kids.
So why does my husband insist on keeping a bottle of alcohol out in the kitchen? He is not an alcoholic but enjoys a drink in the evening now and then. If/when it gets to a level where it bugs me, he has no problem reducing the amount he drinks or eliminating it. I have PTSD from my bro's drunken abuse of me so it can be an issue at times. He knew this before we married and is okay with moderating/eliminating it if my PTSD acts up or his drinking triggers something.
The ONE thing I ask is that he keep the booze in the bedroom closet because the kids are at vulnerable ages.
Each time I ask him to do this, I explain why. I ask if he has any reason why this isn't reasonable. He NEVER has any reason why this isn't reasonable or any other place he wants to keep it other than the kitchen counter. I would most likely agree to keep it in another closet or place if he wanted, but he never has any suggestions. I don't yell and scream at him even when I want to bash him over the head. I give him time to think over the issue to come up with alternatives. He just says I am right and it is good to eep it in the bedroom closet but a few weeks later I find it on the counter again. And I am not talking about the homemade vanilla bottle either (large bottle with 15-20 vanilla beans and rum/vodka for cooking use).