toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Arghhh..... So I found out more today. There was a bed at a detox center yesterday but my son felt he needed to go to the hospital. He was probably feeling pretty sick. So they took him to the hospital where they stabalized him medically and kept him overnight. Today he, with the help of the program he is in, filled out the paperwork for the detox. Today they dont have any medicaid beds (his insurance). The program offered to have their doctor work with him and have him stay in their residential program (which usually doesnt do detox but they were trying to work it out for him). He refused and said he will just drink until Thursday when he can go to detox. So nutty and ridiculous. A big part of me wanted to call him and talk to him about it..... and then I thought wait a minute....I have been so glad that he has been figuring this out with the folks in the program and I have stepped back..... now I am going to step right back in? For what? I realized first it probably would not make a difference, and if it did and he went to detox because I told him too....then it would not really be him owning it. I also realized that if I step in and offer to help in some way that he will try to con me into a different program, or something else or whatever. I really do need to leave this alone and let him make the decision, no matter how bad the decision is....he needs to own his decisions and the consequences of them. He hasnt asked me for help, why do I want to jump in and offer help. I have done this way too much already. So Im keeping quiet and not calling or texting him. If he wants my opinion (and I am sure he knows what it would be and doesnt want it) he can ask me for it. And I realized today that I am not in a situation where he is out there alone, on the streets or in the gutter. He has a support system there that is willing to help him, he is choosing not to take it. So I hope that come Thursday he can get a bed and go....but it is up to him. The whole thing does make me wonder how much he really wants this.... sounds like maybe he wanted to feel enough better so he could drink some. More reason for me to step back and let him figure it out.
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