Just checking in to see how things have gone so far for you and the difficult child's! We've had our donuts, opened gifts, eaten sausage balls with fondue and spent time experimenting with everything- now taking a little time for space of our own before hitting the turkey sandwiches and movies (and falling asleep)! My day has been great, because difficult child had a couple of those "you can't fake it" smiles. I love it! I didn't have much money for gifts this year (you know- restitution for difficult child's crime spree, haven't been able to work full time hours and thus, get salary paid for almost a year,oh- then there's the attorney fees for #@!#%$* "brother" filing for custody). But, I got difficult child some things (on credit card) and this actually seems to be one of his best Christmas's!! YIPEE!! It reminds me of the story of the purple ping-pong ball- anyone heard of this? Well, ok, I'm pushing the messy house, leaves still in the yard, latch on storm door needs to be repaired, pictures need to be hung in most rooms (we've been living here over a year) - all this stuff- it's out of my mind today (somewhat) because I think he's happy and grateful (for now-). I was one of those who started to cancel Christmas this year. Thanks to you ladies, the tree went up a second time. I had many thoughts that he didn't deserve it because of all he'd done this year- then I thought about how last year when he really wasn't doing all that bad, the sd and I kept pushing for him to do better and then he started making comments about how nothing was ever enough, then he "lost it". So, I told difficult child he'd be able to open gifts from others, but if he was going to open the ones from me on Christmas day, he had to do XXX by the end of Christmas Eve. He did those things. And he bought me gifts (albeit with a little financial assitance from me). So, I hope everyone here had a wonderful day- ours was successful mostly because of you here who have been there for me. I hope your difficult child's can find one moment of appreciation, gratitude, and happiness!! Happy Day and God Bless everyone here! Time for sandwich, chip, and movie with difficult child before we hit reality again tomorrow- or tonight- or whenever he sends it my way again!!