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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 639024" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>GM, my very best friend ever, truly a saint of a woman, died very young. She was only 50 and had fought cancer for ten years. But during her abbreviated, healthy years she had the biggest heart of anyone I've ever met. She could not say "no" to a stranger. She had seven children (two adopted) and her grown kids still worship her. Her biological kids had various disabilities, especially AHD and autistic spectrum, but s he was their biggest advocate and not one of them didn't feel loved and cared for nor did any of them ever disrespect her or end up in trouble.Honestly, every single child of hers, adopted ones included, seem to have hearts of gold. It's like her goodness wore off on all of them.</p><p></p><p>However, as kind as she was, she and her fantastic, sweet husband learned a lesson later in her life about always saying "yes." She was the type who took in everyone. They lived in a big old house with lots of room (the house had once been a church) and everyone stayed with her at one time if they knew her. I stayed with her for three weeks when 37 was in the hospital because she lived right near the hospital and I was an hour away. She never wanted a dime, although I gave it to her.</p><p></p><p>But...she did get jaded. Some of the people she helped, stole from her and ran off. Or they did drugs in her house. Or they snuck in scary people and the police ended up at her house. Just before she got sick, she told me that she was done letting anyone stay with her. Even her family had abused her kindness, bringing their pets who peed and pooped on the floor (and she is allergic to dogs and cats). She learned by experience. She toughened up a lot. That did not take her kind heart away. She just had a better grasp of reality and stronger sense of being good to herself. And then she got sick. And I still miss her dearly. I don't think I'd have to be on this forum if she were still alive. We truly shared everything and...well, I still do talk to her. I know she's listening too.</p><p></p><p>I just wanted to share this with you. Being unable to say no is usually not helpful to the person who is unable to do it, but it does indicate a kind heart and, in time, if it bites ya in the buttoski enough, I believe you'll learn to turn people down as well.</p><p></p><p>Hoping that the stay is short and sweet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 639024, member: 1550"] GM, my very best friend ever, truly a saint of a woman, died very young. She was only 50 and had fought cancer for ten years. But during her abbreviated, healthy years she had the biggest heart of anyone I've ever met. She could not say "no" to a stranger. She had seven children (two adopted) and her grown kids still worship her. Her biological kids had various disabilities, especially AHD and autistic spectrum, but s he was their biggest advocate and not one of them didn't feel loved and cared for nor did any of them ever disrespect her or end up in trouble.Honestly, every single child of hers, adopted ones included, seem to have hearts of gold. It's like her goodness wore off on all of them. However, as kind as she was, she and her fantastic, sweet husband learned a lesson later in her life about always saying "yes." She was the type who took in everyone. They lived in a big old house with lots of room (the house had once been a church) and everyone stayed with her at one time if they knew her. I stayed with her for three weeks when 37 was in the hospital because she lived right near the hospital and I was an hour away. She never wanted a dime, although I gave it to her. But...she did get jaded. Some of the people she helped, stole from her and ran off. Or they did drugs in her house. Or they snuck in scary people and the police ended up at her house. Just before she got sick, she told me that she was done letting anyone stay with her. Even her family had abused her kindness, bringing their pets who peed and pooped on the floor (and she is allergic to dogs and cats). She learned by experience. She toughened up a lot. That did not take her kind heart away. She just had a better grasp of reality and stronger sense of being good to herself. And then she got sick. And I still miss her dearly. I don't think I'd have to be on this forum if she were still alive. We truly shared everything and...well, I still do talk to her. I know she's listening too. I just wanted to share this with you. Being unable to say no is usually not helpful to the person who is unable to do it, but it does indicate a kind heart and, in time, if it bites ya in the buttoski enough, I believe you'll learn to turn people down as well. Hoping that the stay is short and sweet. [/QUOTE]
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