that I am moving to AZ. I talked to his counselor today in his group home and he thinks Matt will be pretty upset, but this will be a great "growth opp". (I love how counselors word things. In reality that meant - you are gonna need to take a valium mom.) I am supposed to tell Matt via a phone conference on Tues - with his counselor present. I know I am not responsible for Matt's emotions or his reactions - and yet - I do not want him to end up back in phosph or jail for a violent outburst because he is overwhelmed by this. It is such a catch 22 for me. I can barely deal with my own issues, let alone his. OK, yes, in a way, this is selfish. I just want to move, and not deal with his cr@p! I do not want to start a new job when I am obsessively worried about difficult child. I just DON'T. Grrrrr.............(OK, yes, I know it is my choice on whether to worry. I get it. But you know what I mean.) Certainly there has to be a way in which I can break this news to Matt without him just losing it. He is so co-dependent on me, and I know that is my fault. He freaks out if I don't answer the phone, let alone me moving. I will do this, but I am just wondering if you guys have any sage advice on how to handle all of this? I am just feeling so overwhelmed with all of my own personal moving issues - I cannot imagine having to deal with difficult child's drama on top of this.