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<blockquote data-quote="hearthope" data-source="post: 37972" data-attributes="member: 2389"><p>P.S. I know that a lot of people will not agree with this, but I felt the need to share it with you</p><p></p><p>My son was 11 when I married, we went through our church for premartial counseling. We went by the bible and put my husband as head of household from the day we said I do.</p><p></p><p>We now know that it was a mistake. My son lost his role in the home and began to resent stepdad for breathing</p><p></p><p>I talk with husband about some of the problems with difficult child, but I am the one that lays down the rules to him. I have learned that husband would only treat difficult child differently when I shared ALL info with him.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child is a true difficult child and he resents any restrictions yet when I am the one setting them he accepts them much better than if husband holds power over him.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying to withhold info from husband and hide difficult child's behavior, only that I learned to ask myself what good would come from me sharing this with husband and then making the decision to share or not.</p><p></p><p>Every husband is different just like every difficult child is different, I am just sharing what I did that seemed to help the two of them get along better. </p><p></p><p>My husband can't seem to move past things that difficult child has done. When difficult child has spent a mth doing good and everything is going well with him, my husband would say yea, he's doing good now, but what about what he did 3 mths ago. He can't ever seem to give difficult child a break.</p><p>I think they need to be praised when they are doing good. They have heard so much from us when they have screwed up</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearthope, post: 37972, member: 2389"] P.S. I know that a lot of people will not agree with this, but I felt the need to share it with you My son was 11 when I married, we went through our church for premartial counseling. We went by the bible and put my husband as head of household from the day we said I do. We now know that it was a mistake. My son lost his role in the home and began to resent stepdad for breathing I talk with husband about some of the problems with difficult child, but I am the one that lays down the rules to him. I have learned that husband would only treat difficult child differently when I shared ALL info with him. My difficult child is a true difficult child and he resents any restrictions yet when I am the one setting them he accepts them much better than if husband holds power over him. I am not saying to withhold info from husband and hide difficult child's behavior, only that I learned to ask myself what good would come from me sharing this with husband and then making the decision to share or not. Every husband is different just like every difficult child is different, I am just sharing what I did that seemed to help the two of them get along better. My husband can't seem to move past things that difficult child has done. When difficult child has spent a mth doing good and everything is going well with him, my husband would say yea, he's doing good now, but what about what he did 3 mths ago. He can't ever seem to give difficult child a break. I think they need to be praised when they are doing good. They have heard so much from us when they have screwed up [/QUOTE]
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