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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 38003" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi,</p><p>my husband is also a stepdad. He came into our lives when the kids were 13, 9 and 6. He had 3 older kids of his own (divorced) and that is one reason I married him--I could see he understood kids and knew that they do strange things! My kids' dad had died less than a year before I met him so we were all still grieving and he understood that too.</p><p></p><p>He took things very slowly--I knew I had to be the disciplinarian, he had to earn their trust and realize he wasn't trying to replace their dad. My youngest had the hardest time accepting him at first which I guess is rather unusual. But, she was very open and honest--she missed her dad and she didn't want husband trying to replace him. She talked with husband a lot about her dad and he was so gentle and sympathetic with her. After awhile they seemed like "real" father and daughter. The older two had a harder time, especially difficult child 1. But now, to hear her talk, she "loves" husband and considers him to be her father.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad because I never dreamed these kids (especially difficult child 1) would cause such hardship. I felt guilty for a long time over bringing husband into this mess. He sticks with a commitment once he's made it and I knew he wouldn't leave, no matter how bad it got, so I felt bad. I told him yesterday he should get husband of the year award, the crap he has to put up with!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 38003, member: 3450"] Hi, my husband is also a stepdad. He came into our lives when the kids were 13, 9 and 6. He had 3 older kids of his own (divorced) and that is one reason I married him--I could see he understood kids and knew that they do strange things! My kids' dad had died less than a year before I met him so we were all still grieving and he understood that too. He took things very slowly--I knew I had to be the disciplinarian, he had to earn their trust and realize he wasn't trying to replace their dad. My youngest had the hardest time accepting him at first which I guess is rather unusual. But, she was very open and honest--she missed her dad and she didn't want husband trying to replace him. She talked with husband a lot about her dad and he was so gentle and sympathetic with her. After awhile they seemed like "real" father and daughter. The older two had a harder time, especially difficult child 1. But now, to hear her talk, she "loves" husband and considers him to be her father. I feel bad because I never dreamed these kids (especially difficult child 1) would cause such hardship. I felt guilty for a long time over bringing husband into this mess. He sticks with a commitment once he's made it and I knew he wouldn't leave, no matter how bad it got, so I felt bad. I told him yesterday he should get husband of the year award, the crap he has to put up with! Jane [/QUOTE]
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