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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 657611" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>SWOT is exactly correct. Until we are away from them physically, we cannot see where they are hurting us. Just like I can't see what my mom did or does <em>even when I am just thinking about her</em> today. I love her. That is my mother, or that is my sister, and they hurt and really, hate me all the time and isn't that something. You are right, Confused ~ we can choose to love, decide to try, make ourselves blind as bats to the wrongness in the things they do, but none of that is going to change them. </p><p></p><p>So, just like with our kids when they are troubled, we need to be wary, and we need to be wise.</p><p></p><p>And we need not to believe them.</p><p></p><p>Not in any smallest thing.</p><p></p><p>Maybe they cannot help it, that they are sick, but that doesn't make it okay for them to hurt anyone else ~ especially not those who should be able to trust them. It's like letting a murderer or a thief into our hearts, every time we open the door. But we do it anyway because they look so good, and they smell so nice to us. We refuse to believe what we know is true ~ even if the knife they used last time still has blood on it; even if we have to kick our own livers aside to open the door. "Oh, sorry for the mess. That is just my liver you eviscerated out of me last time you visited. What a messy person I am, livers everywhere. I will have to work on that. Try not to get blood on your shoes. Cookie?"</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>There are just people in the world who are like that. It is best to be wise, and it is best to be wary, and it is best to get away from them and that's hard.</p><p></p><p>But as SWOT posts for us, we have our children and our mates and our animals and the good families we have created, in our neighborhoods of the heart.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>It is a hard thing, to be alone in the world. For some reason, predators flock to us like flies, and we need to learn how to stand up and beat them off, too. But that's easy, what the outside-the-family predators do. Who cares about them. But they will get us, if they can, so best to be wise and to be wary in other aspects of our lives, too. It is the same there as it is with our families: We need to believe them when they tell us who they are, the first time.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Reading is one way to change our own thinking.</p><p></p><p>Whatever the predators in our lives do, whatever they are doing, reading is one way to change our own thinking. And that will change our lives and our worlds and the worlds of our children. Even just being here on this site, where we all are so willing to wonder how to do our lives better ~ there are life-changing things happening here because we give and take to and for one another, and have made for ourselves a place in the world now where there are those who wish us well, who are pulling for us.</p><p></p><p>Just like we are pulling for you and your children, and caring about you, and wishing you every good and wonderful thing.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>So...D H made baby back ribs on the grill, last night. Speaking of barbecue, I mean. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/spaghetti.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":spaghetti:" title="spaghetti :spaghetti:" data-shortname=":spaghetti:" /></p><p></p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 657611, member: 17461"] SWOT is exactly correct. Until we are away from them physically, we cannot see where they are hurting us. Just like I can't see what my mom did or does [I]even when I am just thinking about her[/I] today. I love her. That is my mother, or that is my sister, and they hurt and really, hate me all the time and isn't that something. You are right, Confused ~ we can choose to love, decide to try, make ourselves blind as bats to the wrongness in the things they do, but none of that is going to change them. So, just like with our kids when they are troubled, we need to be wary, and we need to be wise. And we need not to believe them. Not in any smallest thing. Maybe they cannot help it, that they are sick, but that doesn't make it okay for them to hurt anyone else ~ especially not those who should be able to trust them. It's like letting a murderer or a thief into our hearts, every time we open the door. But we do it anyway because they look so good, and they smell so nice to us. We refuse to believe what we know is true ~ even if the knife they used last time still has blood on it; even if we have to kick our own livers aside to open the door. "Oh, sorry for the mess. That is just my liver you eviscerated out of me last time you visited. What a messy person I am, livers everywhere. I will have to work on that. Try not to get blood on your shoes. Cookie?" :O) There are just people in the world who are like that. It is best to be wise, and it is best to be wary, and it is best to get away from them and that's hard. But as SWOT posts for us, we have our children and our mates and our animals and the good families we have created, in our neighborhoods of the heart. *** It is a hard thing, to be alone in the world. For some reason, predators flock to us like flies, and we need to learn how to stand up and beat them off, too. But that's easy, what the outside-the-family predators do. Who cares about them. But they will get us, if they can, so best to be wise and to be wary in other aspects of our lives, too. It is the same there as it is with our families: We need to believe them when they tell us who they are, the first time. *** Reading is one way to change our own thinking. Whatever the predators in our lives do, whatever they are doing, reading is one way to change our own thinking. And that will change our lives and our worlds and the worlds of our children. Even just being here on this site, where we all are so willing to wonder how to do our lives better ~ there are life-changing things happening here because we give and take to and for one another, and have made for ourselves a place in the world now where there are those who wish us well, who are pulling for us. Just like we are pulling for you and your children, and caring about you, and wishing you every good and wonderful thing. :O) So...D H made baby back ribs on the grill, last night. Speaking of barbecue, I mean. :spaghetti: Cedar [/QUOTE]
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