Well, I can't say enough good about that subject LOL! Kidding ~ trying to be funny. Just looking for input I guess. I'm asking around to a bunch of people, because I kinda don't know what to do here. Having 2 difficult child's of my own, I guess I shouldn't ever complain about anything someone else's kid does. Maybe. But I really feel like I should complain here. I'd like to say that in all my difficult child's lives, throughout the course of time, even Dylan when raging, he has never put his hands on anyone else (that I can recall LOL) outside of the home. Yes, he's slapped B and J a couple of times here and there, and been made to write apology notes. And yeah, he's suffered consequences for it and gotten better. But never anyone else's kids. So, my boys are all in camp at the Y. This isn't even about Dylan, it's about B, my 15 year old. So, B is a CIT ~ counselor in training. He's the oldest camper there, so he's not really in a "group" per se, like Dylan and J are. He's the counselors helper. Well, the next oldest kid down is 12. And apparantley, this kid is pretty nasty. Every day since B has been to camp (and this is the 3rd week), this boy has either been nasty verbally or physically abusive toward B. So, today, B tells me the kid is hitting him almost daily, but doesn't want to tell me, because he thinks it's under control. These counselors are taking this boy, putting him in a 15 minute time out, and letting him back to play. Now, the rule of the camp is, 3 write ups, you're out. So, my Dylan, he's been written up twice for shutting down. Not touching a soul, but he has had triggers, and instead of the raging he used to do, now he freezes. Another story altogether, but I'm looking for alternatives in case he gets kicked out of camp. Now, this boy that is hitting my son, written up four times in 1 day. That was 2 weeks ago. I'm sure he's been written up again. So, I ask B why this boy is still in camp. He says the parents don't have anywhere else to put the boy. Ok, I'm very sorry, but why is that MY problem and why does my son have to suffer getting hit from this kid because the parent's have nowhere else to put him??????????? Maybe I'm being hypocritical here or unempathetic? Am I being nasty? Should I just keep my mouth shut, I mean really ~ Dylan is no angel in his own right. And truthfully, neither is B LOL. But my kids don't disrespect adults or the children around them, nor do they DARE put their hands on someone else, because my kids know better. They know they'll get their you-know-what handed to them when I pick them up if they dare. So, I have three options: I can call the camp director and complain about the situation I can ignore the whole thing and tell B to just ignore the boy (but the boy is not ignoring B) or I can just sit back and wait for B to blow, which I KNOW he will at some point, and hit this kid back (he's already said if the boy keeps it up he will), and that's a disaster or I can just pull them all out of the camp (is that really fair to my kids?) You know, I have never allowed my children to slide on being nasty to others, I don't care what their title is, difficult child or not. We were at the dentist last week, I had J with me, and this little 4 year old kid was with his dad. The kid was running around like a maniac, bed head from he*l, looking like Damian, SHOVING this toy into my son's face. I watched the dad, just watching his kid, telling him to stop, over and over and over and over. Finally, I put my hand up in front of J's face and told that little kid to get away from my son, he was too close, and to take a few steps back. I know I said it sternly, cuz he looked scared LOL, but darn it, don't let your kid do that to someone elses. Maybe I'm just ranting, sorry. Thoughts?