So now I'm not working...any good ideas on what go do?

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by MidwestMom, Feb 26, 2013.

  1. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I'm trying to fill up my days with stuff I couldn't do before and always wanted to do yet I still find myself lonely during the day when I'm not busy and looking for other experiences. So far I have choir every other Tues. night, TOPS (which I need and is also social) the Tues. I don't have choir, I volunteer at a place for the poor on Wed. mornings, I'm in a senior theatre group and I have my therapy appointments and I *still* have a lot of time to fill. It's like my days aren't organized without my job. Yes, yes, my little dogs love it and I do take them for rides and stop to visit Daddy at work and I shop when I'm bored (not good for my pocketbook), but I'm amazed at how much time there is to fill. The house doesn't get too messy since Sonic and Jumper are almost grown. I'm thinking of adding two days a month to volunteer at a no-kill pet shelter (I refuse to volunteer at a kill shelter). Yet I really do kind of just muddle through each day. It's not like the kids need me anymore or my grandson is close. It hoovers. Any creative suggestions? Anyone else in my boat? It's very possible I may never get another job I can actually do, and it will take a long time to even get help looking. I'm going to be sixty. I am really at loose ends, wondering if I have any real worth anymore. No self-pity here, just wondering as I move from one life stage to another. I feel the worst when nobody is home but me. And now I found out my best friend, who is now in Arizona, may have a recurrence of her breast cancer and I'm so sad for her. Can't help...she's not here. Hub is only 56 and won't be retiring any time soon...ever, if you ask him. He doesn't believe he'll ever be able to retire.

    Losing this job I loved is still a bitter pill. I was not at loose ends when I had my job....

  2. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    do more cooking from scratch... and kill two birds with one stone: reduce your grocery bill, and then you can feel NOT guilty about a bit of "shopping".

    Home-made soup and home-made bread, for example, take TIME.
  3. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    LOL! If only I could cook. My cooking is a family joke and legend.
  4. HaoZi

    HaoZi CD Hall of Fame

    Write a memoir?
  5. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Hmmmmm...there's a thought...
  6. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Do you have a hospital nearby?
    The childrens' ward often looks for good volunteers who can help the children pass the time - reading to them, for example.
  7. nerfherder

    nerfherder Active Member

    Public Libraries usually need volunteers. Many of them run their own used-book sales, and need people to sort and stack or shelve the donated books for sale.
  8. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I can look into our hospital. It's not that good, but maybe they need volunteers!
  9. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Pam, you are a writer...and quite a good one! Maybe try changing your topic and see if you can go more mainstream?

    I do understand being bored out of your mind at home. I get told constantly that I can go or do anything I want. Well, no I cant. For one thing there is nothing here I want to do and if there was, either I dont have the money or I wouldnt be physically able to do it!

    Do you think you could learn to do something like knit or crochet? How about any other crafts? Check out things on ebay and see if any cute things they make and sell,you think you could make.
  10. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Writing was the first thing I thought of. You ARE a good writer and I am sure fans would love another book. There are a LOT of places who need volunteers. Very few hospitals will turn down volunteers, regardless of their abilities. Our hospital has a whole group that just knits baby hats for the newborns. We have a group that meets at a church one day a week and makes tote bags. The bags are filled with things and sent to women in Africa. For many of them, just having a sturdy bag is a HUGE improvement in their quality of life. I am pretty sure the group is called Joybags or the bags they make are called that.

    Your cooking is 'legendary'. Is it something you have a desire to do well? Or something you think is boring and you have no interest in? If you are interested, pick something and make it over and over until you figure it out. I am betting attentional issues are playing a role, as are organizational sklls. I can help via pm with those. I bet you would excel at making mixes and that, my friend, can save you a TON of $$.

    You love kids. You want to foster. Why not take the time to talk to someone now to see if you need any classes or whatnot that you could do now? NOT to really start the process, bu to make sure that when you do, you have your ducks in a row.

    Schools ALWAYS need help. So it won't be a paying job. Go to a teacher or principal or sp ed teacher you know, not one from HS, and tell them that you have from 9 to 1 on W and Fri free, and you would LOVE to volunteer at the school. What would help them, and what is needed to get started? You have already had the fingerprints and background check done by HS, so that should be no biggie. If they ask why you left HS, give some nondescript answer. I cannot think of what I mean to say here, but others can give you good short sentences that will cover it. You could help at recess, in the cafeteria,with reading or flashcards or whatever the school might need. Sure, they may not have a lot of people like you, who cares? They NEED people like you and usually they won't run you off because they know they are critically shorthanded as it is.

    You can get involved in adult literacy. You would help adults who didn't learn to read in school or those from other countries that need to know English. It can be very rewarding. You can also volunteer at the library. If your library has a story hour, you could help with that, or maybe after volunteering for some time, you could start a program for kids of whatever age you most enjoy working with. Though your kids are in school, you still have much to help other kids wth. Maybe you could find a homeschool group and figure out a way to help with something? And extra pair of hands on field trips, or teaching somethng you enjoy, or helping the parents understand special needs, whatever.

    Most communities have some programs for seniors. I am NOT suggesting that YOU attend, but that you volunteer. We have Project HEART which provides a healthy meal and companionship with the meals regulated by a dietitian. They also handle Meals on Wheels - they cook the food and MOW delivers. The seniors enjoy having people come in to visit and help out. There may be a senior center that could use help, or a daycare that wouldn't mind a volunteer.

    If working with people doesn't interest you, shelters always need volunteers. So do zoos. If there is a nature center or natural history museum, they may have animals that could help. You could also get involved with therapy pets and work with your little dog to see if you could be certfied.

    MOST churches have lists of groups that need volunteers, and they would be happy to share. The United Way also usually knows when/where volunteers are needed and can help you find something that you enjoy.

    I hope this helps. If you really WANT some tips/help in the kitchen, I wll offer what i have. Even if you cannot technically 'cook', you could make many mixes if you can count and you can stir. Problems counting? I can help that too! I have a mix that calls for a large number of cups of flour. For some reason, someone MUST speak to me and have me respond as I measure and count. It is added later in a recipe so dumping it out and starting over? Not so easy. Solution: Count out one chocolate chip or peanut or whatever and after the cup is emptied into the bowl, I eat the chocolate chip. Until it is added to the bowl, it doesn't count. With this, I can even walk to another room with-o losing my place.

    A LOT of cooking problems are lack of practice and creative problem solving. I am pretty good with them, if you want/need ideas/help. the whole measuring thing was to show you that problems from attention and organization issues are totally something you can learn to cope with. Putting jalapenos in everything, even spaghetti and desserts? Not so fixable, esp when the family hates them, lol. (that is from my father's cooing during my teens, I still shudder at the thought of things he tried to feed us, lol)
  11. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Susie and others, you are dreams. I am going to call my son's old Special Education teacher to see if she needs/wants a volunteer. I'd love to help in her classroom. If not, maybe another one. And I'm FREE help. I don't really care about being paid. I will also call our hospital. I love the way you guys kick my

    Foster parenting does require classes...we've done it before...but we have to take the class together (husband and myself) and we aren't ready to get licensed yet. So they won't want us taking up a spot until we are ready. Basically, we want to move first. That will be next year.

    I'm not sure why I don't cook that well, unless it is basic. I have a general problem with anything to do that requires that sort of artistic touch (and good cooking is an daughter has the touch). Not only do I tend to bomb in exotic cooking, but I can't learn to knit or's part of that pesty left brain problem. My mother could sew like a pro and tried to teach me to knit and crochet and even sew, but I could never "get it" no matter how much I tried. I'm much better with the verbal stuff. However, I WAS thinking of trying to look for a class where I could try to learn how to crochet again. It may be futile...I get very confused at stuff like that, but there's no harm in it either. I have always admired the afghans my mother and grandmother made.

    I'm fine with going to the senior center. We have a really nice one here. After all, I'm over 55...duh! If I made it this far, you bet I'm going to utilize the services (and discounts!) for seniors! :)

    Janet, if I went more mainstream nobody would publish my books. I like how I write, I just am trying, at this time, to find social outlets and writing is very gratifying, but also solitary. But thanks for reminding me that I'm a writer!