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So the cops came this morning. Happy Sunday!
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 637018" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I know GM, I so know how you feel. </p><p></p><p>The thing is that most of us are much better at giving and taking care of, then giving to ourselves and knowing what our own needs and wants are. And, some of that is cultural, we mothers are supposed to be all knowing, all loving and be able to jump buildings in a single bound......unfortunately, we expect that of ourselves too and then we collapse. We can't do this alone. Most of us need an army of help. I know I did. And once I got it, once I allowed myself to get the support I was so willing to give to others, everything began to change. With support, wherever you get it, you begin to get nourished, your strength and resolve return, you receive compassionate understanding, empathy and guidance. Once you get that, and you realize you have choices, you gain the courage and the conviction to make the changes necessary for YOU. Not for your difficult child. For YOU. That turnaround in thinking usually takes us out of the path we've been on and onto another one, based in making our needs and wants a priority. When you make that shift in thinking, not only does your life improve, but your daughter's life changes dramatically where YOU are concerned because she won't be able to manipulate you anymore, you will have developed the tools and the skill set to stop that dynamic.</p><p></p><p>It turned out like this because, in my estimation, you need to learn to take care of YOU. And your daughter is the catalyst for change for you. And ultimately for her too, however she decides to ride that wave to shore. But change is imminent because you have become sick and tired of the way it is........and that is when we change.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you GM. I really do know exactly how you feel.</p><p></p><p>Take care of YOU now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 637018, member: 13542"] I know GM, I so know how you feel. The thing is that most of us are much better at giving and taking care of, then giving to ourselves and knowing what our own needs and wants are. And, some of that is cultural, we mothers are supposed to be all knowing, all loving and be able to jump buildings in a single bound......unfortunately, we expect that of ourselves too and then we collapse. We can't do this alone. Most of us need an army of help. I know I did. And once I got it, once I allowed myself to get the support I was so willing to give to others, everything began to change. With support, wherever you get it, you begin to get nourished, your strength and resolve return, you receive compassionate understanding, empathy and guidance. Once you get that, and you realize you have choices, you gain the courage and the conviction to make the changes necessary for YOU. Not for your difficult child. For YOU. That turnaround in thinking usually takes us out of the path we've been on and onto another one, based in making our needs and wants a priority. When you make that shift in thinking, not only does your life improve, but your daughter's life changes dramatically where YOU are concerned because she won't be able to manipulate you anymore, you will have developed the tools and the skill set to stop that dynamic. It turned out like this because, in my estimation, you need to learn to take care of YOU. And your daughter is the catalyst for change for you. And ultimately for her too, however she decides to ride that wave to shore. But change is imminent because you have become sick and tired of the way it is........and that is when we change. My heart goes out to you GM. I really do know exactly how you feel. Take care of YOU now. [/QUOTE]
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