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So the cops came this morning. Happy Sunday!
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 637029" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>This is so true. Getting help for yourself helps you to find the inner strength to stop participating in the "games" and gas-lighting so common with difficult child's. Once you start to focus on a better life for yourself, what others say and do will gradually have less and less effect on you until you begin to care more and more about how your own happiness and right to a normal life comes first. Is it fair that you have to do all the work, when it is the difficult child that is causing all the problems? No, no, it is not. We don't get through problems by going around them but going through them. You KNOW that difficult child is not going to go for help because she doesn't think there is anything wrong with her! Crazy but true. So left remaining is you - the only one that can get help to stop the insanity. Surely by now you have tried everything to get the other person to changes; obviously they are not going to - so who is left to change? Some people are resistant to treatment because they believe that it is admitting a mental weakness - like there is something wrong with THEM. This couldn't be further from the truth. It is those who use the resources to eliminate the craziness and live a happier life that are the sane ones. Getting help for yourself is in effect throwing in the towel and saying I give - I have done every other reasonable thing and I can't live this way anymore. Standing there to help bring your life back to normal are wonderful people who have been in your situation or understand it and offer you the help to deal in this helpless situation not of your making.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 637029, member: 18366"] This is so true. Getting help for yourself helps you to find the inner strength to stop participating in the "games" and gas-lighting so common with difficult child's. Once you start to focus on a better life for yourself, what others say and do will gradually have less and less effect on you until you begin to care more and more about how your own happiness and right to a normal life comes first. Is it fair that you have to do all the work, when it is the difficult child that is causing all the problems? No, no, it is not. We don't get through problems by going around them but going through them. You KNOW that difficult child is not going to go for help because she doesn't think there is anything wrong with her! Crazy but true. So left remaining is you - the only one that can get help to stop the insanity. Surely by now you have tried everything to get the other person to changes; obviously they are not going to - so who is left to change? Some people are resistant to treatment because they believe that it is admitting a mental weakness - like there is something wrong with THEM. This couldn't be further from the truth. It is those who use the resources to eliminate the craziness and live a happier life that are the sane ones. Getting help for yourself is in effect throwing in the towel and saying I give - I have done every other reasonable thing and I can't live this way anymore. Standing there to help bring your life back to normal are wonderful people who have been in your situation or understand it and offer you the help to deal in this helpless situation not of your making. [/QUOTE]
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