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So tired of arguing over difficult child with H
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 59872" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Well this is the million dollar question Jog! </p><p></p><p>It is so easy with so called normal kids. They grow up, graduate high school, go to college or get a job, move out, marry or live with someone, etc. The progression works. </p><p></p><p>difficult child's just dont move forward that way. We have to be like momma birds and push them out of the nest sometimes. I have yet to be able to figure out how to do that successfully. Mine keep returning home! I think I have an electro-magnetic field around my house that keeps drawing them back. Either that or I was too nice a mother...lol. Maybe I should have been meaner. </p><p></p><p>You can start teaching her slowly while she is at home how to be responsible for herself. Start treating her more like a tenant and less like a child. Tell her she is to pay rent now and has responsibilities like paying for certain things. You can save her rent to help her move out one day. If she is working a part time job then her rent could be 1/5th her weekly paycheck...that is what is considered reasonable in the outside world I believe. Then make her pay for her own clothes or her contribute to her own car insurance etc. You get the idea. Start slowly and teach her what it means to be an adult in this world. Show her how to have a checking account and how to pay bills. If she has a cell phone, show her how to pay the bills. Teach her budgeting skills and debit cards. I would avoid credit cards...lol. Bipolars dont do well with them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 59872, member: 1514"] Well this is the million dollar question Jog! It is so easy with so called normal kids. They grow up, graduate high school, go to college or get a job, move out, marry or live with someone, etc. The progression works. difficult child's just dont move forward that way. We have to be like momma birds and push them out of the nest sometimes. I have yet to be able to figure out how to do that successfully. Mine keep returning home! I think I have an electro-magnetic field around my house that keeps drawing them back. Either that or I was too nice a mother...lol. Maybe I should have been meaner. You can start teaching her slowly while she is at home how to be responsible for herself. Start treating her more like a tenant and less like a child. Tell her she is to pay rent now and has responsibilities like paying for certain things. You can save her rent to help her move out one day. If she is working a part time job then her rent could be 1/5th her weekly paycheck...that is what is considered reasonable in the outside world I believe. Then make her pay for her own clothes or her contribute to her own car insurance etc. You get the idea. Start slowly and teach her what it means to be an adult in this world. Show her how to have a checking account and how to pay bills. If she has a cell phone, show her how to pay the bills. Teach her budgeting skills and debit cards. I would avoid credit cards...lol. Bipolars dont do well with them. [/QUOTE]
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