I feel totally defeated by my 13 year old son. He has always been difficult to deal with mentally, but when he was younger I could handle it. The last 2 years have been exhausting. Every day is a battle to get him up and to school. He has been suspended numerous times for disrespecting teachers. At home he goes into rages, punches holes through walls. He constantly picks at my husband, and 9 year old son, and mostly me. He calls me names, blames me for his behavior, he puts me down constantly, for example this morning he calls me dumb and an idiot and a horrible parent. His language is horrible. In the last 2 years I've had him to counselling, psychologists, family doctor, and we have had to call police when he goes into an uncontrollable rage. (He is a big and strong boy for his age. 180 lb. Quite athletic with hockey and biking.) We discipline, take away all privileges, ground him, nothing helps. I finally got him into a psychiatrist in early March and she diagnosis him with ADHD and ODD. She started him on Concerta which is helping a little. His behaviour at school has improved. His marks are improving. His outbursts aren't as often at home. He went from having rages everyday to maybe 1 or 2 per week. School mornings are the worst. He is so verbally abusive, especially to me. I've tried different tactics to handle it but nothing helps, and I just end up feeling so down. My husband is not his biological father, but has raised him since he was a year old. His bio father has little to do with him and just blames me for the behaviour issues. Says it is my fault because I spoiled him. Sorry to rant, but I have come to the conclusion that I need to voice my story with people who understand. My friends and my mom are great listeners but don't truly understand what I am going through. My husband is able to get on with his day , where as I get down and teary and feel like a total failure of a mother.