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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 714997" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh MichelleLynnFl, I am sorry. If you read our stories, you will find so many of us have felt the sword of blame pierce our hearts when our kids put all the blame on us and accuse us of terrible things.....it hurts to the core, I know. There are many of us who have been at this for years, taking the brunt of our adult kids unwarranted, undeserved wrath. I understand the depth of your hurt.</p><p></p><p>Yes, you might do a bit of research as soon as you can and find out the eviction laws in Florida. Protect yourself, find out the facts.</p><p></p><p>Cover all your bases, protect yourselves, your home, your belongings. Make sure she has no access to your bank cards, credit cards, cash. Check your wallets for anything missing. Our kids are resourceful and when they believe they are cornered, stealing is a no brainer for them. Check your checkbooks to make sure no checks are missing. Check your jewelry. I don't mean to alarm you, I've just heard so many stories of theft by our own kids.</p><p></p><p>NAMI, as far as I know, doesn't charge, so they may be a good resource. You can also contact Social Services in your area to find out if they have any Therapists who do sliding scale. (I'm not sure but also try calling 211 for counselors for you) But I think NAMI may be able to help you with that.</p><p></p><p>This IS heartbreaking. I've shed many, many tears for my daughter. And in the end, there wasn't much I could do. Some tools I have learned to utilize, are:</p><p>*Meditation. If you are new to it, you can go on YouTube and search guided meditations. They have them for sorrow, depression, fear, anxiety, any feeling you have. And general ones too. Deepak Chopra and the Honest Guys are two I like. Practice deep breathing. When we are frightened, we breathe in a shallow fashion, deep breathing helps.</p><p>*12 step groups are free, you might look into one that fits for you. Many are focused on addiction, but CODA helped me.</p><p>*Take a walk when it gets to you. The stats are that within 11 minutes the brain chemistry changes. It helps to exercise, to stay active.</p><p>* Keep posting here. Writing it out is very helpful. Plus you get support.</p><p>*I like acupuncture, it helped me to remain calm and find relaxation. You can call any local acupuncturist and find out if they offer sliding scale, many do.</p><p>*Some find solace in talking to a Pastor or Priest, if you belong to a church or other religious entity, they might provide groups or resources.</p><p>*Read books that offer what you are looking for. I like Echhart Tolle who helped me to stay in the present moment and get out of the past and tripping in to the future. <u>The power of now </u>is good start. Pema Chodrin is a Buddhist Nun whose written wonderful books on living in uncertainty. I found them very helpful.</p><p>Develop a 'tool box' of your own to utilize when you need it.</p><p></p><p>You're in a tough spot, but you sound very determined. <em>You can do this. </em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 714997, member: 13542"] Oh MichelleLynnFl, I am sorry. If you read our stories, you will find so many of us have felt the sword of blame pierce our hearts when our kids put all the blame on us and accuse us of terrible things.....it hurts to the core, I know. There are many of us who have been at this for years, taking the brunt of our adult kids unwarranted, undeserved wrath. I understand the depth of your hurt. Yes, you might do a bit of research as soon as you can and find out the eviction laws in Florida. Protect yourself, find out the facts. Cover all your bases, protect yourselves, your home, your belongings. Make sure she has no access to your bank cards, credit cards, cash. Check your wallets for anything missing. Our kids are resourceful and when they believe they are cornered, stealing is a no brainer for them. Check your checkbooks to make sure no checks are missing. Check your jewelry. I don't mean to alarm you, I've just heard so many stories of theft by our own kids. NAMI, as far as I know, doesn't charge, so they may be a good resource. You can also contact Social Services in your area to find out if they have any Therapists who do sliding scale. (I'm not sure but also try calling 211 for counselors for you) But I think NAMI may be able to help you with that. This IS heartbreaking. I've shed many, many tears for my daughter. And in the end, there wasn't much I could do. Some tools I have learned to utilize, are: *Meditation. If you are new to it, you can go on YouTube and search guided meditations. They have them for sorrow, depression, fear, anxiety, any feeling you have. And general ones too. Deepak Chopra and the Honest Guys are two I like. Practice deep breathing. When we are frightened, we breathe in a shallow fashion, deep breathing helps. *12 step groups are free, you might look into one that fits for you. Many are focused on addiction, but CODA helped me. *Take a walk when it gets to you. The stats are that within 11 minutes the brain chemistry changes. It helps to exercise, to stay active. * Keep posting here. Writing it out is very helpful. Plus you get support. *I like acupuncture, it helped me to remain calm and find relaxation. You can call any local acupuncturist and find out if they offer sliding scale, many do. *Some find solace in talking to a Pastor or Priest, if you belong to a church or other religious entity, they might provide groups or resources. *Read books that offer what you are looking for. I like Echhart Tolle who helped me to stay in the present moment and get out of the past and tripping in to the future. [U]The power of now [/U]is good start. Pema Chodrin is a Buddhist Nun whose written wonderful books on living in uncertainty. I found them very helpful. Develop a 'tool box' of your own to utilize when you need it. You're in a tough spot, but you sound very determined. [I]You can do this. [/I] [/QUOTE]
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