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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 657249" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm still practicing over here. </p><p></p><p>My granddaughter is now home from college and "sitting on my lips" is becoming my new way of being! Fortunately for me, I am still immersed in this course on learning how to NOT get hooked. Part of it is text, so here is some info for those, like me, practicing keeping our mouths shut......</p><p></p><p><em>(<strong>Shenpa</strong> is the urge, the hook, that triggers our habitual tendency to close down. We get hooked in that moment of tightening when we reach for relief.)</em></p><p></p><p>"In section three, we continue our exploration of shenpa through the traditional Buddhist analogy of how we “sow seeds” through our actions, seeds that will eventually blossom as either future suffering or future joy and freedom. When we act in ways that are habitual and derived from following our desire for comfort and grounding, we create the potential for future suffering and confusion. When instead we act in ways that are fresh and arise from our own fundamental intelligence, we create the potential for future happiness, love, and joy.</p><p></p><p>These seeds from our past arise in moments of shenpa, when certain causes and conditions are present, and we then face a choice: to fertilize and water the seeds, through habitual responses, or to burn the seeds up by sitting in the fire of our own direct experience. The seeds can no longer germinate when we choose a fresh alternative, and this is what we're learning to do through this course.</p><p></p><p>We see that it takes tremendous courage not to follow the momentum, to interrupt the urge and desire to scratch. By dropping the storyline and staying with the underlying energy, we often end up in quite a groundless and even uncomfortable place. Learning to stay in this discomfort takes bravery and commitment, and can take quite a bit of practice to get the hang of. But what we discover is that it is possible to interrupt the momentum and to no longer water the seeds of future suffering.</p><p></p><p>These moments of discomfort and groundlessness are in actuality fluid, dynamic, and impermanent. But in the moment, we are not always aware of this. It is our tendency to want to jump out of the fire and follow the habitual pattern of blaming someone else, denigrating ourselves, or in some other way scratching the itch. We scramble to find some sort of ground, but never quite succeed in doing so. The truth is that this practice offers no ground. Instead, it presents you with the opportunity to relax into the open spaciousness of the positive groundlessness about which we've been speaking.</p><p></p><p>The simple truth, Pema shares, is that it feels good to talk to ourselves and to scratch the itch in the face of shenpa. Whether it's lashing out at someone else, eating an entire box of chocolates, or writing a hate letter, we derive some satisfaction out of following the old momentum, of jumping out of the fire of direct experience and into the chain reaction of suffering. By sitting in the fire, however, we burn up all these old karmic seeds. This is not a comfortable process, but it is one that is tremendously liberating."</p><p></p><p>Off I go.....into another day of PRACTICE!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 657249, member: 13542"] I'm still practicing over here. My granddaughter is now home from college and "sitting on my lips" is becoming my new way of being! Fortunately for me, I am still immersed in this course on learning how to NOT get hooked. Part of it is text, so here is some info for those, like me, practicing keeping our mouths shut...... [I]([B]Shenpa[/B] is the urge, the hook, that triggers our habitual tendency to close down. We get hooked in that moment of tightening when we reach for relief.)[/I] "In section three, we continue our exploration of shenpa through the traditional Buddhist analogy of how we “sow seeds” through our actions, seeds that will eventually blossom as either future suffering or future joy and freedom. When we act in ways that are habitual and derived from following our desire for comfort and grounding, we create the potential for future suffering and confusion. When instead we act in ways that are fresh and arise from our own fundamental intelligence, we create the potential for future happiness, love, and joy. These seeds from our past arise in moments of shenpa, when certain causes and conditions are present, and we then face a choice: to fertilize and water the seeds, through habitual responses, or to burn the seeds up by sitting in the fire of our own direct experience. The seeds can no longer germinate when we choose a fresh alternative, and this is what we're learning to do through this course. We see that it takes tremendous courage not to follow the momentum, to interrupt the urge and desire to scratch. By dropping the storyline and staying with the underlying energy, we often end up in quite a groundless and even uncomfortable place. Learning to stay in this discomfort takes bravery and commitment, and can take quite a bit of practice to get the hang of. But what we discover is that it is possible to interrupt the momentum and to no longer water the seeds of future suffering. These moments of discomfort and groundlessness are in actuality fluid, dynamic, and impermanent. But in the moment, we are not always aware of this. It is our tendency to want to jump out of the fire and follow the habitual pattern of blaming someone else, denigrating ourselves, or in some other way scratching the itch. We scramble to find some sort of ground, but never quite succeed in doing so. The truth is that this practice offers no ground. Instead, it presents you with the opportunity to relax into the open spaciousness of the positive groundlessness about which we've been speaking. The simple truth, Pema shares, is that it feels good to talk to ourselves and to scratch the itch in the face of shenpa. Whether it's lashing out at someone else, eating an entire box of chocolates, or writing a hate letter, we derive some satisfaction out of following the old momentum, of jumping out of the fire of direct experience and into the chain reaction of suffering. By sitting in the fire, however, we burn up all these old karmic seeds. This is not a comfortable process, but it is one that is tremendously liberating." Off I go.....into another day of PRACTICE! [/QUOTE]
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