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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659119" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>COM, a woman who is so wise, I learned long ago, from a fantastic mother-in-law who never put in her two cents, not to tell my adult children what to do. Ever. No matter what I think of it. If asked, I will give my opinion, but I won't insist. Or argue. This has worked wonderfully now that I have grands. It is not our business what our now grown children do. It is the same with our easier kids than our harder ones.</p><p></p><p>In seventeen years of marriage to my first husband, my angel of a mother in law never once told us we are doing anything wrong. She used positivity or said nothing and you could never even feel "disapproval" vibes. Her mother, my ex's grandmother, eventually moved in with mother in law and she was the same exact way, if just a tad more willing to state her opinion, but not so that anyone felt badly. There are two angels in the sky who were very wise in life and probably guiding us now.</p><p></p><p>Easier adult children can cause us heartache too, if only because they don't want our help when they are hurt and ask for space. I have this with Jumper. I have learned to let her come to me and to leave her be. It works.</p><p></p><p>I hope your son has a beautiful wedding. I cringed w hen I read that his fiance had been called an embarasment. I really have always wondered why some people have children only to call them names and make them feel small. She is lucky to have you. She will probably love you as much as I loved and still love my mother in law.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 659119, member: 1550"] COM, a woman who is so wise, I learned long ago, from a fantastic mother-in-law who never put in her two cents, not to tell my adult children what to do. Ever. No matter what I think of it. If asked, I will give my opinion, but I won't insist. Or argue. This has worked wonderfully now that I have grands. It is not our business what our now grown children do. It is the same with our easier kids than our harder ones. In seventeen years of marriage to my first husband, my angel of a mother in law never once told us we are doing anything wrong. She used positivity or said nothing and you could never even feel "disapproval" vibes. Her mother, my ex's grandmother, eventually moved in with mother in law and she was the same exact way, if just a tad more willing to state her opinion, but not so that anyone felt badly. There are two angels in the sky who were very wise in life and probably guiding us now. Easier adult children can cause us heartache too, if only because they don't want our help when they are hurt and ask for space. I have this with Jumper. I have learned to let her come to me and to leave her be. It works. I hope your son has a beautiful wedding. I cringed w hen I read that his fiance had been called an embarasment. I really have always wondered why some people have children only to call them names and make them feel small. She is lucky to have you. She will probably love you as much as I loved and still love my mother in law. [/QUOTE]
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