"Pick your battles." I read it as I will have battles still, but not take on every one right away. An example for our house might be that I will go head-to-head with Duckie/Xena over disrespectful behavior or not doing homework, but I couldn't care less if she decides to wear mismatched socks because her friends think it's cool. Or if she decides to take her shower before homework (who cares as long as it all gets done?). I've noticed that a lot of the parents of her friends read it as an excuse to let things go (these are easy child's). "Well, okay... you can watch Gossip Girl.. it's not that bad for a 4th grader." "well, you're supposed to be 13, but you can have a Facebook account. What harm could it do?" It's like they've abdicated being a parent in order to keep the peace. One of her best friend's moms was talking to me about some of the kids this age "dating" and mentioned another parent chaperoning a "couple" to the movies for a "date". This friend's mom, when asked, said it probably wasn't the best thing to do and she wouldn't do it for her kids... too much of a slippery slope. I agreed with her. Are they right? Or, are we? And what does "pick your battles" mean to you?