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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 649003" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>These are those interesting, though very superficial cultural differences. The thing itself; loving someone, falling in love, romantic feelings, is basic humanity and same everywhere, but how it is shown can be very different in different cultures.</p><p></p><p>What you describe there is something I would feel very phony and would likely suspect something is going on, if my husband would tell he loves me all the time. Of course, if he would be from different culture and I would know it is just something he does, I would keep that in my mind, but basic instinct would be that there is something wrong if he needs to try to convince someone so much. In fact, I know some people who are in multicultural marriages and these type of communication differences can really do a number, because even when you know it just difference in communication, it really doesn't take that gut feeling away totally. </p><p></p><p>We just don't use whole 'love' word much in our language. Nowadays, due watching to many Hollywood romantic movies, youngsters feel it is appropriate to tell their boy- and girlfriends that they love them, but still many try to get around the using actual word for it, and all the seriousness that word means us, by using English or some other language to say it. In fact they have made a loanword from 'love' by making it more appropriate to use in our language and use that instead the actual word.</p><p></p><p>I guess we tend to use the actual word for our kids when they are very young, I mean they all know the word and about only people who you meet who easily tell they love someone are still using diapers or were very recently. After they know the concept and know they are loved, we just wean using the word off and resort to same 'show, not tell' tactic we use with other people when it comes to love. And when we absolutely have to say it, we most of the time get around it by telling people they are important, or that sometimes they are rather lovely or that we kind of like them or at the most that they are loved. But mostly we just show it, with small everyday gestures, deeds and non-verbal communication.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>In this we are also very reserved. "Affectionate gestures of private nature belong to private situations" as a rule was formulated in my old High School to prohibit kissing and sitting on someone's lap in school corridors during recess. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 649003, member: 14557"] These are those interesting, though very superficial cultural differences. The thing itself; loving someone, falling in love, romantic feelings, is basic humanity and same everywhere, but how it is shown can be very different in different cultures. What you describe there is something I would feel very phony and would likely suspect something is going on, if my husband would tell he loves me all the time. Of course, if he would be from different culture and I would know it is just something he does, I would keep that in my mind, but basic instinct would be that there is something wrong if he needs to try to convince someone so much. In fact, I know some people who are in multicultural marriages and these type of communication differences can really do a number, because even when you know it just difference in communication, it really doesn't take that gut feeling away totally. We just don't use whole 'love' word much in our language. Nowadays, due watching to many Hollywood romantic movies, youngsters feel it is appropriate to tell their boy- and girlfriends that they love them, but still many try to get around the using actual word for it, and all the seriousness that word means us, by using English or some other language to say it. In fact they have made a loanword from 'love' by making it more appropriate to use in our language and use that instead the actual word. I guess we tend to use the actual word for our kids when they are very young, I mean they all know the word and about only people who you meet who easily tell they love someone are still using diapers or were very recently. After they know the concept and know they are loved, we just wean using the word off and resort to same 'show, not tell' tactic we use with other people when it comes to love. And when we absolutely have to say it, we most of the time get around it by telling people they are important, or that sometimes they are rather lovely or that we kind of like them or at the most that they are loved. But mostly we just show it, with small everyday gestures, deeds and non-verbal communication. In this we are also very reserved. "Affectionate gestures of private nature belong to private situations" as a rule was formulated in my old High School to prohibit kissing and sitting on someone's lap in school corridors during recess. :rofl: [/QUOTE]
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