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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 625466" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Upallnight, it is the nature of our difficult children to have NO concept of how to spend money wisely. Honestly, I know what you mean. 36 makes a good living. I give him that. But does he ever have any money? Well, he says he is so broke that sometimes he can't even take a girl out to eat, which is his excuse for having a poor love life (can't be HIM, of course). But the truth is, he just bought a new house???? Huh? Well, ex has a lot of money and has enabled, not with a smile on his face, but he hands out money like water to 36. He complains to me about it, but he does it anyway. I don't tell him not to because he's not my husband anymore and it's not my problem. I think it's nutty, but it's his money, not mine.</p><p></p><p>36 is always in financial peril. One year he got a 20K bonus for Christmas which he 100% blew on his son and himself for toys neither of them need. That would have covered half the expense of his legal battle, but he didn't use it for that. He let his clueless father, who didn't know about it, keep on paying 100% of his legal bills. </p><p></p><p>I'm just trying to let you know you're not alone and that it seems that difficult children tend to have a sense of entitlement. When they get money, rather than paying their own bills, they spend the money on toys for themselves because they are very immature and then they go to mommy and/or daddy (whoever has the deep pockets) to plead poverty. Often, these poor rich kids, as I call them, also collect government benefits. I knew a poor grandmother who adored her grandbabies so much that she paid her daughter and thug boyfriend for the honor of being able to see them. The boyfriend was a multiple felon who had been caught stealing and selling stuff for drugs, which was a big part of their income, and she still allowed him and daughter to live with her so that she could have some control over granddaughters. However, the daughter was VERY abusive to her and eventually it did not work out. </p><p></p><p>Oh, what a sad road we walk. I guess my longwinded post was to let you know that...well, It hink we all understand. And, yes, this board tends to help me much more than my therapist when it comes to my difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 625466, member: 1550"] Upallnight, it is the nature of our difficult children to have NO concept of how to spend money wisely. Honestly, I know what you mean. 36 makes a good living. I give him that. But does he ever have any money? Well, he says he is so broke that sometimes he can't even take a girl out to eat, which is his excuse for having a poor love life (can't be HIM, of course). But the truth is, he just bought a new house???? Huh? Well, ex has a lot of money and has enabled, not with a smile on his face, but he hands out money like water to 36. He complains to me about it, but he does it anyway. I don't tell him not to because he's not my husband anymore and it's not my problem. I think it's nutty, but it's his money, not mine. 36 is always in financial peril. One year he got a 20K bonus for Christmas which he 100% blew on his son and himself for toys neither of them need. That would have covered half the expense of his legal battle, but he didn't use it for that. He let his clueless father, who didn't know about it, keep on paying 100% of his legal bills. I'm just trying to let you know you're not alone and that it seems that difficult children tend to have a sense of entitlement. When they get money, rather than paying their own bills, they spend the money on toys for themselves because they are very immature and then they go to mommy and/or daddy (whoever has the deep pockets) to plead poverty. Often, these poor rich kids, as I call them, also collect government benefits. I knew a poor grandmother who adored her grandbabies so much that she paid her daughter and thug boyfriend for the honor of being able to see them. The boyfriend was a multiple felon who had been caught stealing and selling stuff for drugs, which was a big part of their income, and she still allowed him and daughter to live with her so that she could have some control over granddaughters. However, the daughter was VERY abusive to her and eventually it did not work out. Oh, what a sad road we walk. I guess my longwinded post was to let you know that...well, It hink we all understand. And, yes, this board tends to help me much more than my therapist when it comes to my difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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