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Nana's are Beautiful
I've been watching easy child's boys for a year now.
Connor is obviously a difficult child with autism (can't be too sure at this point how far down on the spectrum he is) alone. But he's lagging in gross/fine motor skills, speech, and maturity. easy child can deny all she wants, but it's there and obvious to anyone who has spent as much time working with children as I have, in addition to special needs children. He is lagging quite a bit behind, but I am starting to see improvements and we're working on what we can work on. Although I'm not quite sure how to aide with maturity.....I just keep working with his skills and hope that catches up. Right now? He's working at Oliver's level maturity wise and even with large/fine motor skills. He's doing a bit better with speech, but we've been working with him on that. Speech really had me worried for a while, but his progress is pretty good, so not so worried about it at the moment. I'm working on large/fine motor skills.
I've dealt with these things and so with Connor it's just sort of business as usual around here except I'd like to see him working with a licensed Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT so maybe he could catch up faster.....but that's up to easy child not me. (I also worry he won't catch up to the level he might with real therapists) I can out stubborn any child, which my lil man has learned. He has also learned he's expected to follow the same rules with the same punishments and Nana is no nonsense about it. He does well, even does time out for me. Is sharing well with the other boys most of the time.
I'm determined he's going to be eating with utensils here soon. He tries but gets frustrated and gives up and uses his hands ineffectively. So I'll sit beside him and help with a fork of my own while he's making attempts with his spoon. Last night he was made to practice getting food into his mouth with his spoon with strawberry ice cream. Ice cream was the motivation.....he loves ice cream. Nana refused to allow him to use his hands, which resulted in screaming that got him nowhere fast. Then once his screaming was over, I put the spoon into his hand and helped him scoop up some ice cream and guide it to his mouth. We did this about a million times until the ice cream was all gone. He tried several times alone, because I encourage it, but he kept trying to bring in his other hand to actually scoop and eat the ice cream with......(instead of putting it on the spoon)......and I wouldn't let him, then showed him how by guiding him again. The only other child I've ever seen not able to use a spoon to put food into their mouth at 2 yrs of age is bff's son......and he had CP and was working with therapists to do so, much the same way I'm doing Connor. Now at 2 they're not necessarily going to do a great job of it, will make a mess, and often need the other hand to help put/keep the food onto the spoon depending on what it is, but they should be able to get the food onto the spoon and into their mouth. With Connor it's both getting it onto the spoon (and so far it doesn't matter what the food is) and getting it successfully into his mouth, he just can't seem to get the hang of it. If he gets lucky and manages to get it onto the spoon, he'll lose the bite before it gets to his mouth because he will turn the spoon side ways or upside down. I work with him with his meals too, but he gets frustrated easily. Ice cream, well, he wasn't going to give up on because he really wanted that ice cream. LOL
Brandon at over 3 1/2 *might* be nearly broke for the potty. I have to put the *might* in there because we'll think he's doing well and then he goes back to old habits, especially here. I have seen improvement, as the last time he pooed his pants (outside) I knew because of the smell (over the top always phew) but I watched to see if he'd come and tell me (figured he'd not wanted to stop playing) and while he didn't come and tell me, it was obvious he was uncomfortable and not liking messed underwear. Before, he could've cared less even if it was running down his leg. ick So I brought him inside, cleaned him up, told him if he pottied outside in his pants because he doesn't want to tell me he has to go then he would not be allowed to play outside. So far, I didn't get an accident yesterday........so maybe that was motivation enough. We'll see. I have never had a kid take this long to break, ever. Aubrey took a while because Nichole's husband (they weren't living together at the time) wouldn't get with the program, but still it didn't take this long. The being uncomfortable with it now I think will help a ton......so I'm hoping it won't be much longer when there will be no more accidents.
The real issue with Brandon now is the deliberately acting like a baby thing. He nearly drove me insane with it yesterday. You correct him, he ignores you. He thinks it's cute. I talked to easy child to see if he's doing it at home too. He is and she thinks it is an attempt for attention. Well, it might be, except there is no real reason for it..........except that he was spoiled with attention....and now Connor is becoming more social and affectionate.......sooo maybe?? Dunno. But he looks ridiculous, it's annoying as all get out to deal with. I've never had a kid want to be younger than they are. It was always the other way around. He got so bad at supper that I told him if he wants to be a baby like Connor (who I'm trying to get through Brandon's head I'm teaching to be a big boy) then he can take naps with Connor. Didn't phase him much.
It's deliberate as he gets this look across his eyes when he's doing it or about to do it. He also sometimes thinks this "allows" him to get away with unacceptable behavior toward either Connor or Darrin. Which of course it doesn't.
I'm sure it's not so easy having a little brother not much younger than yourself. (they are 18 months apart) Hmm. Now that I say that it sounds silly. 18 months is sort of close together but not that close. Shoot easy child and Travis are only 22 months apart and I never had such issues. And Travis did demand a lot of my attention and time due to his issues.
I try to play up the big brother deal and have him help me show Connor how to be big. It doesn't seem to be working in the slightest. I guess we'll be doing time out for un age appropriate behavior because honestly......nothing else has worked. And it's getting out of hand.
It's frustrating for me because once I got him past the holy terror stage, now I'm dealing with the babyfied stage and well, I love him but it's making it difficult to warm up to him and do things to get closer to him because I don't want to encourage this behavior. And he's doing the baby thing so darn much, that I'm having a hard time catching moments when he's not to either praise him for being a big boy or to spend time doing something special with him alone.
Today so far has not been so bad. The baby behavior has not surfaced yet, but then Connor is also down for his nap. He wants me to come watch the Choo Choo's with him........so I'm off to do that.
But I have a feeling, if we're not careful, Brandon is going to wind up easy child's real difficult child with the behavior issues. I'd hate to see that happen cuz he's such a sweet lil guy when he wants to be.
Any ideas on how to deter babyish behavior? (I'd rather not have him sitting in Time Out nearly the whole time Connor is awake either)
Connor is obviously a difficult child with autism (can't be too sure at this point how far down on the spectrum he is) alone. But he's lagging in gross/fine motor skills, speech, and maturity. easy child can deny all she wants, but it's there and obvious to anyone who has spent as much time working with children as I have, in addition to special needs children. He is lagging quite a bit behind, but I am starting to see improvements and we're working on what we can work on. Although I'm not quite sure how to aide with maturity.....I just keep working with his skills and hope that catches up. Right now? He's working at Oliver's level maturity wise and even with large/fine motor skills. He's doing a bit better with speech, but we've been working with him on that. Speech really had me worried for a while, but his progress is pretty good, so not so worried about it at the moment. I'm working on large/fine motor skills.
I've dealt with these things and so with Connor it's just sort of business as usual around here except I'd like to see him working with a licensed Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT so maybe he could catch up faster.....but that's up to easy child not me. (I also worry he won't catch up to the level he might with real therapists) I can out stubborn any child, which my lil man has learned. He has also learned he's expected to follow the same rules with the same punishments and Nana is no nonsense about it. He does well, even does time out for me. Is sharing well with the other boys most of the time.
I'm determined he's going to be eating with utensils here soon. He tries but gets frustrated and gives up and uses his hands ineffectively. So I'll sit beside him and help with a fork of my own while he's making attempts with his spoon. Last night he was made to practice getting food into his mouth with his spoon with strawberry ice cream. Ice cream was the motivation.....he loves ice cream. Nana refused to allow him to use his hands, which resulted in screaming that got him nowhere fast. Then once his screaming was over, I put the spoon into his hand and helped him scoop up some ice cream and guide it to his mouth. We did this about a million times until the ice cream was all gone. He tried several times alone, because I encourage it, but he kept trying to bring in his other hand to actually scoop and eat the ice cream with......(instead of putting it on the spoon)......and I wouldn't let him, then showed him how by guiding him again. The only other child I've ever seen not able to use a spoon to put food into their mouth at 2 yrs of age is bff's son......and he had CP and was working with therapists to do so, much the same way I'm doing Connor. Now at 2 they're not necessarily going to do a great job of it, will make a mess, and often need the other hand to help put/keep the food onto the spoon depending on what it is, but they should be able to get the food onto the spoon and into their mouth. With Connor it's both getting it onto the spoon (and so far it doesn't matter what the food is) and getting it successfully into his mouth, he just can't seem to get the hang of it. If he gets lucky and manages to get it onto the spoon, he'll lose the bite before it gets to his mouth because he will turn the spoon side ways or upside down. I work with him with his meals too, but he gets frustrated easily. Ice cream, well, he wasn't going to give up on because he really wanted that ice cream. LOL
Brandon at over 3 1/2 *might* be nearly broke for the potty. I have to put the *might* in there because we'll think he's doing well and then he goes back to old habits, especially here. I have seen improvement, as the last time he pooed his pants (outside) I knew because of the smell (over the top always phew) but I watched to see if he'd come and tell me (figured he'd not wanted to stop playing) and while he didn't come and tell me, it was obvious he was uncomfortable and not liking messed underwear. Before, he could've cared less even if it was running down his leg. ick So I brought him inside, cleaned him up, told him if he pottied outside in his pants because he doesn't want to tell me he has to go then he would not be allowed to play outside. So far, I didn't get an accident yesterday........so maybe that was motivation enough. We'll see. I have never had a kid take this long to break, ever. Aubrey took a while because Nichole's husband (they weren't living together at the time) wouldn't get with the program, but still it didn't take this long. The being uncomfortable with it now I think will help a ton......so I'm hoping it won't be much longer when there will be no more accidents.
The real issue with Brandon now is the deliberately acting like a baby thing. He nearly drove me insane with it yesterday. You correct him, he ignores you. He thinks it's cute. I talked to easy child to see if he's doing it at home too. He is and she thinks it is an attempt for attention. Well, it might be, except there is no real reason for it..........except that he was spoiled with attention....and now Connor is becoming more social and affectionate.......sooo maybe?? Dunno. But he looks ridiculous, it's annoying as all get out to deal with. I've never had a kid want to be younger than they are. It was always the other way around. He got so bad at supper that I told him if he wants to be a baby like Connor (who I'm trying to get through Brandon's head I'm teaching to be a big boy) then he can take naps with Connor. Didn't phase him much.
It's deliberate as he gets this look across his eyes when he's doing it or about to do it. He also sometimes thinks this "allows" him to get away with unacceptable behavior toward either Connor or Darrin. Which of course it doesn't.
I'm sure it's not so easy having a little brother not much younger than yourself. (they are 18 months apart) Hmm. Now that I say that it sounds silly. 18 months is sort of close together but not that close. Shoot easy child and Travis are only 22 months apart and I never had such issues. And Travis did demand a lot of my attention and time due to his issues.
I try to play up the big brother deal and have him help me show Connor how to be big. It doesn't seem to be working in the slightest. I guess we'll be doing time out for un age appropriate behavior because honestly......nothing else has worked. And it's getting out of hand.
It's frustrating for me because once I got him past the holy terror stage, now I'm dealing with the babyfied stage and well, I love him but it's making it difficult to warm up to him and do things to get closer to him because I don't want to encourage this behavior. And he's doing the baby thing so darn much, that I'm having a hard time catching moments when he's not to either praise him for being a big boy or to spend time doing something special with him alone.
Today so far has not been so bad. The baby behavior has not surfaced yet, but then Connor is also down for his nap. He wants me to come watch the Choo Choo's with him........so I'm off to do that.
But I have a feeling, if we're not careful, Brandon is going to wind up easy child's real difficult child with the behavior issues. I'd hate to see that happen cuz he's such a sweet lil guy when he wants to be.
Any ideas on how to deter babyish behavior? (I'd rather not have him sitting in Time Out nearly the whole time Connor is awake either)