I assume that when a spouse dies, their estate goes to their living spouse. There's no reason to disinherit children when your spouse survives you. Other than to ensure that your spouse signs the letter of disinheritance, that is, and that you can go to your grave feeling superior that you gave one last kick to the person you disinherit as they're rolled up in a ball on the floor. It's always made you feel good before, so why not go for the "Coup de grace?" FWIW, I have stipulated in my new will that L will receive nothing from me. What I have not done is send her a copy of that will in advance. If she - as I would have - never goes looking for her inheritance from me, she will never see it. It is a plain and simple wish, not a punch in the gut.