NOLA
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Hes been home for 2 months now. The heartache (and every other horrible feeling a parent could have) of not knowing where he was for 6 months is still fresh in my mind but we are almost back to square one. He is working, hes paid back $100 of the $300 he stole, has been cooperative, hes never come after curfew (with-out calling to say hed be 10 mins late) however, long story short, he is using again-probably never stopped-got the latest screen back from the PO & he was positive for cocaine.
I met with-the PO and asked that he file another violation, told him that the community service still hasnt been served and wanted to know our options basically if we could put him out at 17. Next court date is 4/24 he may be able to move it up. He said the court can order him into treatment but believe it or not couldnt give me a definite about showing him the door. Came home to find a teeny bit of weed on his desk that he must have overlooked, papers in the drawer & condoms. We didnt confront him when he came home since he was scheduled to take the GED the next day.
Well, he tells me at 11:30 pm hes lost the address (which he swears someone moved his paperwork) I drove him around at 7:00 am to where I thought it may be but I had to go to work so dropped him back home & just said sorry, that didnt work out for you, you may want to call and reschedule.
So now we must make the decision to A) not say anything to him & have the PO move the date up and just have the judge order treatment B) tell him the gig is up, take away all niceties, etc., but run the risk that he will bolt or C) beat him to it and just tell him he must move out immediately because he is using drugs period
Any thoughts will help me == the longer I mull it over the crazier I get. I want to DO SOMETHING by this weekend.
Happy Easter...
I met with-the PO and asked that he file another violation, told him that the community service still hasnt been served and wanted to know our options basically if we could put him out at 17. Next court date is 4/24 he may be able to move it up. He said the court can order him into treatment but believe it or not couldnt give me a definite about showing him the door. Came home to find a teeny bit of weed on his desk that he must have overlooked, papers in the drawer & condoms. We didnt confront him when he came home since he was scheduled to take the GED the next day.
Well, he tells me at 11:30 pm hes lost the address (which he swears someone moved his paperwork) I drove him around at 7:00 am to where I thought it may be but I had to go to work so dropped him back home & just said sorry, that didnt work out for you, you may want to call and reschedule.
So now we must make the decision to A) not say anything to him & have the PO move the date up and just have the judge order treatment B) tell him the gig is up, take away all niceties, etc., but run the risk that he will bolt or C) beat him to it and just tell him he must move out immediately because he is using drugs period
Any thoughts will help me == the longer I mull it over the crazier I get. I want to DO SOMETHING by this weekend.
Happy Easter...