I guess it's a common school of thought in certain countries. I think it's baloney. But what do you think? Do you think your alcoholic loved one can learn to drink safely, under the limit, and have a good life? I sure wouldn't want an alcoholic I loved to be seeing anyone who believed this. It is sort of like learning how to smoke moderately. If your body is addicted to a substance, how can you just do it when you want to do it and safely? But I'm open to opinions as I have never known anyone closely who is an alcoholic unless 36 is (which is possible as in functional one) and that makes me not that knowledgeable. He has often said, "With my anxiety disorder, no way can I try to quit drinking or chewing." Does this mean you can learn to smoke cigarettes moderately or shoot heroin moderately? If it's different, HOW is alcohol different and why? This kind of scares me. Say 36 IS an alcoholic and goes for help and some doctor says, "Oh, you can learn just not to drink every night. You can learn to only drink twice a week." I don't believe that would help him or that he could do it. But it's a license to keep on drinking, which can eventually kill you. However, this may just be MY fear as a non-drinker. I am more apt to think that alcoholics can learn to be more sneaky about being drunk, but don't quote me there either.