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Some think alcoholics can learn to drink moderately. Agree?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630139" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>That is what my ex-husband was, MWM. A very highly functioning alcoholic. Until he wasn't. Since it's a progressive disease, you can't hold it constant. It's going to progress.</p><p></p><p>For years and years and years, he could drink and walk away---publicly. Evidently he was doing a lot of secret drinking, secret even from me.</p><p></p><p>We could go out with friends, and he could drink two or three scotch and waters (and he would be a LOT nicer) and not even be tipsy. I thought that was a good thing (lol). </p><p></p><p>Then, one day, he showed up at the credit union to meet with me and sign papers for a car loan. He was drunk and acted weird in front of the loan officer. When we walked out to the parking lot, I said: Are you drunk? </p><p></p><p>Of course he said no. That was the beginning of the unraveling of our marriage. </p><p></p><p>He had been hard to live with for years. I thought he was just hard to live with. It was alcoholism.</p><p></p><p>The sad thing is it affects so much more than the body. It affects everything. </p><p></p><p>My ex husband was a good dad, but he could have been a lot better dad had he not had alcohol as his first priority in his life. </p><p></p><p>I believe he hated himself and was ashamed at the lies and hiding and sneaking around to drink. A person who hates himself is an unhappy person and that permeates everything---every relationship.</p><p></p><p>Addiction is so insidious. It seeps into the pores of every single thing and corrupts it. </p><p></p><p>Any of us could be "allergic" to substances. Today, I have more compassion for those who are, and their lifelong struggles. My exhusband has remarried, doesn't drink as far as I know, and is better. I don't know how much better or worse, but I hope he is much better. He was always a good person in the grip of a terrible disease. </p><p></p><p>I hope 36 one day will stop drinking. His life would be so much better. But of course, that is up to him. He certainly won't do it unless he absolutely HAS to.</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs for you, my friend. GG! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/watermelon.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":watermelon:" title="watermelon :watermelon:" data-shortname=":watermelon:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630139, member: 17542"] That is what my ex-husband was, MWM. A very highly functioning alcoholic. Until he wasn't. Since it's a progressive disease, you can't hold it constant. It's going to progress. For years and years and years, he could drink and walk away---publicly. Evidently he was doing a lot of secret drinking, secret even from me. We could go out with friends, and he could drink two or three scotch and waters (and he would be a LOT nicer) and not even be tipsy. I thought that was a good thing (lol). Then, one day, he showed up at the credit union to meet with me and sign papers for a car loan. He was drunk and acted weird in front of the loan officer. When we walked out to the parking lot, I said: Are you drunk? Of course he said no. That was the beginning of the unraveling of our marriage. He had been hard to live with for years. I thought he was just hard to live with. It was alcoholism. The sad thing is it affects so much more than the body. It affects everything. My ex husband was a good dad, but he could have been a lot better dad had he not had alcohol as his first priority in his life. I believe he hated himself and was ashamed at the lies and hiding and sneaking around to drink. A person who hates himself is an unhappy person and that permeates everything---every relationship. Addiction is so insidious. It seeps into the pores of every single thing and corrupts it. Any of us could be "allergic" to substances. Today, I have more compassion for those who are, and their lifelong struggles. My exhusband has remarried, doesn't drink as far as I know, and is better. I don't know how much better or worse, but I hope he is much better. He was always a good person in the grip of a terrible disease. I hope 36 one day will stop drinking. His life would be so much better. But of course, that is up to him. He certainly won't do it unless he absolutely HAS to. Warm hugs for you, my friend. GG! :watermelon: [/QUOTE]
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