Over the years, the number of friends I have has swindled down to almost none. I do have a co-worker, J, who has been a friend for the 20+ years that we've worked together. She's about it for friends. But it is getting really hard to be friends with her. She has 4 boys who are all easy child's. Her biggest complaint is that the oldest can't remember to unplug his flat iron. But her life is always worse than mine. She believes if you parent your kids right, you should have no problems with them. Right now, I'm having trouble even liking her. See, in March of 2009, difficult child-A's best friend killed an 84 year old woman. D and difficult child-A were best friends since pre-k. D stayed many, many nights at my house. D has very good parents. But, D is a difficult child. And we all know what it's like to live with a difficult child! You do your very, very best! D's parents took him to psychiatrists. They sent him to rehab when he got into meth. The week before the murder, D's Mom called the police because D was getting out of hand and refusing to take his medications. But the police could only send him for a 72 hour hold and D knows the game to play to get out. What D did is beyond wrong, I don't excuse him, but, my heart breaks for what D's parents are going through. And my heart breaks for D because I know there is a good kid in there somewhere. (Maybe that is the curse of being a Mom to a difficult child). In the news today, it was annouced that D's trial was delayed another month while the defense works on the insanity plea. My problem today is listening the J talk about how wrong that is. That there should be no insanity plea, that the parents must of not raised the kid right for him to turn out this way. That the kid should not be allowed to have an insanity plea because anyone who can kill another has to be insane. And, unfortunately, she's not alone. I feel like I'm alone right now. I know that if it wasn't for the grace of God, that could and may someday still, be one of MY difficult children going through this. I know his parents are going through heck right now. And then to have people judge them as if it is their fault..... it's sad. I really need to go find new Rhino skin. I'm so thin-skinned right now that everything hurts. Thanks for listening to me. At least here, I have a chance of finding people with a heart, or a little compassion, or just someone who isn't brutally judgemental without having been in the others shoes.