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Sometimes I feel like I have abandoned her :(
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<blockquote data-quote="dakini" data-source="post: 697078" data-attributes="member: 20175"><p>I'm mostly a lurker here just trying to learn and absorb as much info as I can. I thought I was alone, sad there are so many of us.</p><p>My daughter left in March to live on the streets with the man she met at a homeless shelter while doing her internship for her BA. Before she left she did tell me he was a substance abuser and had a mental disorder. </p><p></p><p> I cut off all financial assistance I had been providing to her, which was quite a lot since she lived at home and did not have a job, as I was not going to support nor enable her new lifestyle. Boyfriend has convinced her that her family has been controlling and stifling her all her life. I don't know if she is taking any drugs, but I have my suspicions that she is.. We don't speak to each other any more. I stopped responding to her texts (or maybe the boyfriends?) when she threatened to call the police to my home so she could get her computer, threatened to file a restraining order against me an her older brother, for ?? </p><p></p><p>The last time I spoke with her was the day I saw her standing out by a road with her "Homeless, need money" sign. I let her know I loved her, but did not love/like what she was doing. The next time I saw her I was dropping off all her belongings in a parking lot, we did not speak.</p><p></p><p>Most days I do ok. Get on with life, etc. I still have one at home, so I can't just "check out" of life like I want to sometimes. </p><p>But last night, I lay in bed and it just hit me.. I have deserted my daughter! Just left her out there, on the streets with that man who is not looking out for her best interests. I wonder what she thinks about me some days. I love her so much and do not understand how we went from being best friends to this.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening.. I try not to talk to much about her anymore with family. Most of them think I need to just move on, let it go and let her be. But oh my, I have never hurt so deeply before in my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dakini, post: 697078, member: 20175"] I'm mostly a lurker here just trying to learn and absorb as much info as I can. I thought I was alone, sad there are so many of us. My daughter left in March to live on the streets with the man she met at a homeless shelter while doing her internship for her BA. Before she left she did tell me he was a substance abuser and had a mental disorder. I cut off all financial assistance I had been providing to her, which was quite a lot since she lived at home and did not have a job, as I was not going to support nor enable her new lifestyle. Boyfriend has convinced her that her family has been controlling and stifling her all her life. I don't know if she is taking any drugs, but I have my suspicions that she is.. We don't speak to each other any more. I stopped responding to her texts (or maybe the boyfriends?) when she threatened to call the police to my home so she could get her computer, threatened to file a restraining order against me an her older brother, for ?? The last time I spoke with her was the day I saw her standing out by a road with her "Homeless, need money" sign. I let her know I loved her, but did not love/like what she was doing. The next time I saw her I was dropping off all her belongings in a parking lot, we did not speak. Most days I do ok. Get on with life, etc. I still have one at home, so I can't just "check out" of life like I want to sometimes. But last night, I lay in bed and it just hit me.. I have deserted my daughter! Just left her out there, on the streets with that man who is not looking out for her best interests. I wonder what she thinks about me some days. I love her so much and do not understand how we went from being best friends to this. Thanks for listening.. I try not to talk to much about her anymore with family. Most of them think I need to just move on, let it go and let her be. But oh my, I have never hurt so deeply before in my life. [/QUOTE]
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