Sometimes I Forget About the Problems of PCs and their Parents... LOL!

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DaisyFace, Jul 5, 2011.

  1. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not

    So I received a FB message from a woman that I met through the school...

    we are not close, but she knows that difficult child has some issues.

    At any rate, she messaged me that she was "desparately" looking for some kind of boot camp for her son. His behaviors were escalating and she could not take it any more.

    Not knowing the whole story, I responded with a general list of the resources I know in this neck of the woods: Military-style schools, boarding schools, RTCs, Parent resources, etc

    When I didn't hear anything back - I called to see if there was anything more I could do to help. At the very least, I figured I could be a shoulder to cry on... After all, I know what it's like to live with a difficult child....the stress, the frustration, the never-ending battles...

    Well, it turns out that these parents were desparately looking for a boot camp....

    because their easy child talked back to them instead of doing his chores that night.


    And I guess my list of difficult child resources was a bit of a shocker...!

  2. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    lol!!! Makes you have to chuckle that THAT is their biggest problem. I do often wonder what the kids are doing that the parents don't know about though. Cause most of my easy child's have a bit more spirit than that. LOL.
  3. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    LOL too funny!

  4. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

  5. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    :rofl: :rofl:

    This is why I ask what the problem IS before I answer.
  7. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

  8. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Dang...I WISH that was my only problem!
  9. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Even when I do ask, its easy to see the "bigger, hidden problems" that the other parent isn't aware of... as in, WE get a bit paranoid after all we've been through, so we see all sorts of problems "lurking" - stuff we wish we'd seen long before...

    That's one nice thing about this space... if I get slapped with a stack of over-reactive responses, its not because people don't care or understand... its because they've been through the mill too, and so, we tend to dive in with the help we wish we had (or got from here or similar). So we tend not to be "shocked" at the response.
  10. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip


    I wish that was my biggest issue...
  11. seriously

    seriously New Member

    What I wouldn't give for a kid like that...

    although it does make you wonder what they did to the kid that he/she talking back about chores is so shocking and abnormal.
  12. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

  13. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Just another example of how people who don't have difficult child's have no idea what it's like. I use to look for books in Borders to help when difficult child was younger and decided they were not written for difficult child's. We were so far beyond what any of those books suggested.

  14. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip


    I gave up looking, too. Even "The Explosive Child" helped only with Jett. It should have helped with Onyxx - but no. Well, it did help me deal, anyway. I still don't think husband ever read it.
  15. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    I'm with you on that one... but I haven't given up on books (yet).
    Lately, I've found half a dozen at the used book store (much less $$ of course)... books that really are not meant for dealing with difficult children, but buried in there somewhere have been some really good ideas and some helpful information (example of the latter: a definition of the unique characteristics of depression in young males)

    NOTHING out there begins to cover the complexity - any one book might work well if you're only dealing with a couple of specific challenges (even if they are big ones) - but multiple challenges? We end up with "solutions" that might work for the problem being "addressed" but instantly cause major issues in an area "not currently being addressed". Know what I mean??

    If we even just had two of K2, we'd be just about a "normal" family - and the usual books and tricks and ideas work.
    But we don't.
    Which is why we need other parents who have been there, for support.

    Hmmm... maybe somebody needs to take this site and turn it into a book?
    Wasn't somebody talking about writing a book sometime???
  16. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Yep, TEC helped with the younger three but the only thing that would have stopped Kanga's outbursts would have been to not only ALLOW her to do whatever she wanted to do but to provide the transportation and the funding and to praise her as well. And she would have kept upping the requests because what she really wanted was the chaos and violence.
  17. Mattsmom277

    Mattsmom277 Active Member

    HAHA It's funny to send off a list as comprehensive as yours, for backtalking about chores lmao. Awesome!
  18. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    I got to the point that I can't even tolerate most watercooler conversation at the office...I get so sick of hearing how little Johnny don't get enough time on the field, or little sally didn't get the lead in the recital, or how the teacher ha the gonads to call them when their son was out of class for aDr appointment - shouldn't they have KNOwN?!?!? I just couldnt deal with the travesty.
  19. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Kanga, Onyxx... Sisters in a past life?