I found this site through the net, looking for tough love info. I'll try to be brief. 40 y/o, Single mom for 12 years, I don't drink or date. I work full time and have been diagnosed with bipolar and anxiety disorder. Matt, 21 - dorms @ college during the wk - comes home on the wkend. Cass 16 - graduating a year early from high school, plans to attend college next fall. She refuses to help @ the house,she has used drugs in the past, she has drank on occassion, she had sex with her 1st b/f after dating him 1 wk. She won't do as she's told. I can't leave her alone for long periods of time unsupervised because I am afraid of what trouble she will get into. She has few friends. Today she slapped me and called me a . She said she plans on not coming home from school tomorrow, so don't expect her. She refuses to feed herself and she still her thumb. by the way dear old dad showed up after 12 years and said he wanted visitation. WE went to court (cost $1700) and he had to go to drug/alcohol evaluation - he failed, tested positive for marijuana and cocaine. He withdrew his petition. He scheduled the test so he knew when he would be tested. My net income: $300/wk - We live in a 2 bdrm apt. my car is 14 years old. child support$60/wk - which she claims is rightfully hers. I am tired and can't take anymore. I have been to hell and back and I don;t know what else to do other than get a PINS petition. If I send her to her father's - I can only imagine what will happen to her. The only other person that might be will to take her for any length of time is my brother - but she has access to alcohol there - she has taken it before, I know she will again. I can't do this anymore. I'm too old and too tired. any ideas? I'm all out.