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Son Almost 18, home from residential treatment. Need Advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 707821" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>All I have is general advice/thoughts...</p><p>I would have a contract in place for him to sign. No girlfriend when you are not home, no drugs EVER...etc.</p><p>What are consequences? How many chances if he breaks the rules? I don't know. Girlfriend and minor infractions.,..maybe one. Drugs and maybe other serious violations.,..ZERO.</p><p>I don't have any issues with removing the bedroom door. He can earn it back.</p><p>One time our teenage son continually forgot to throw out the trash. We had those large containers on wheels that the city provides. After he left for school, I rolled that heavy container with wheels into his room, raised the ac and left it there all day. He never forgot it again.</p><p>One of my best secret weapons with our daughter with a mood disorder is soliciting the help of a close mentally HEALTHY friend of hers whom she has known since early childhood whom she trusts. I do NOT do this often at all. I save it for heavy duty issues. Since this young woman is mentlaly healthy, I know in my heart she will agree with me and have our daughter's best interest at heart.</p><p>In a pinch, I will call her and she will call our daughter and reason with her. Since I do this soooo infrequently and our daughter deeply respects her and cares for her, she will always listen to her. Does your son have a close relative or friend like this, whom he respects, that you can call now and again (infrequently/in a pinch)?</p><p>Definitely get support for yourself. Short term therapy perhaps. Support groups are wonderful.</p><p>The ones mentioned or Families Anonymous....all worthy of consideration!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 707821, member: 4152"] All I have is general advice/thoughts... I would have a contract in place for him to sign. No girlfriend when you are not home, no drugs EVER...etc. What are consequences? How many chances if he breaks the rules? I don't know. Girlfriend and minor infractions.,..maybe one. Drugs and maybe other serious violations.,..ZERO. I don't have any issues with removing the bedroom door. He can earn it back. One time our teenage son continually forgot to throw out the trash. We had those large containers on wheels that the city provides. After he left for school, I rolled that heavy container with wheels into his room, raised the ac and left it there all day. He never forgot it again. One of my best secret weapons with our daughter with a mood disorder is soliciting the help of a close mentally HEALTHY friend of hers whom she has known since early childhood whom she trusts. I do NOT do this often at all. I save it for heavy duty issues. Since this young woman is mentlaly healthy, I know in my heart she will agree with me and have our daughter's best interest at heart. In a pinch, I will call her and she will call our daughter and reason with her. Since I do this soooo infrequently and our daughter deeply respects her and cares for her, she will always listen to her. Does your son have a close relative or friend like this, whom he respects, that you can call now and again (infrequently/in a pinch)? Definitely get support for yourself. Short term therapy perhaps. Support groups are wonderful. The ones mentioned or Families Anonymous....all worthy of consideration!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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